Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Out With the Old...In With the New

Change can be hard.

I don’t like change. I like things to stay the same. I like to cook the same recipes, wear the same style clothes, fix my hair the same way, write the same type stories using the same tried and true methods, go to the same restaurants…


I recently traded in my old bucket and twisted mop for a Swiffer mop. Can you believe it? With a crawler on my floors, I needed a quicker way to mop. Why did I wait so long?!?!?

But sometimes change can be good, healthy, and a huge time-saver.

Many years ago we hand-wrote all the checks for the company I worked for. This was in the mid-eighties when computers were just becoming available for small businesses. There came a time when the accounting department (okay, this consisted of like THREE people) decided that we needed to have computer-generated checks. And even though I had a computer science degree, I wasn’t sure that our caveman software could sustain the spelled out portion of the checks or how much programming it would take.

Really, it just seemed easier to just keep handwriting the checks. But it wasn’t meant to be. This was thirty-ish years ago, but we were able to get code from the software manufacturer that would convert the amount of the check to the hand-written version. And, as you probably guessed, our lives were so much easier.

Fast-forward another twenty years or so, and the company decided to overhaul and streamline the entire caveman process from the initial purchasing order all the way through to invoicing the customer. Kicking and screaming, we moved forward with this change. Yeah, the change was painful and took years to get it all working properly, but in the end, it was a wise move.

I’m the only one at home who drinks coffee, so I never actually owned a coffee maker,
and as long as I worked the day job, I drank a cup or two there on weekdays. Let’s just say I love my Keurig! Perfect for someone who works from home or alone in their office.

I made a change in 2012 that I’d waffled about for years: I quit my day job of 28 years to work from home. I spend my days writing, working for ACFW, bookkeeping for the family businesses and babysitting my precious grand baby.

I loved my job and the people I worked for and with, but finally making the decision to work from home was the best decision I ever made. Should I have made that change sooner? Could I have?

I don’t know. Maybe 2012 was the year God marked that change on his calendar even though I’d been trying to mark my calendar for so long.

Change is inevitable.

In life and in writing.

Sometimes this change makes your writing better, faster, more efficient. Sometimes a change that works for one might not work for another. My college English professor prefers to write on a typewriter to this day. If a magazine or newspaper requires one of his essays to be electronic, his wife types it up on her computer.

Pen and paper, typewriter, computer... those are just the beginning of writing decisions you’ll make on when to stay and when to change.

What is the best writing software to use? Word? Scrivener? Story Mind? Which computer will make your writing life easier? Which day planner? Should you keep plotting or start pantsing?


Is it time to change any of these?

Is it time to change publishers? Change agents? Or to look for an agent? Is it time to go Indie or hybrid? Is it time to change genres?

Change.

We spend so much time agonizing over whether to actually make a change. What if we minimize the worry and just do it?

I’m not going to say that I’ve always been happy with every decision or change I’ve ever made. I’m not going to say that I’ve always made those changes in God’s perfect timing. But I can honestly say that I don’t have a lot of regrets, and when I’ve made a major decision, I’ve been so pleased and at peace that I wondered why it took me so long to take the plunge.

I know there are some things that you can’t share, so the following questions are rhetorical, but please feel free to share if you can, and if not, you can just tell us that you are struggling with a decision, and we will help you pray.

Is there a change you’ve been thinking about and praying over for a long time, but just can’t make yourself take the leap? Thinking over changes that were a long time coming, did you think you made the right decision or not? Looking back, would you have made the change sooner rather than later?

But, seriously, if you love coffee, get a Keurig. Just sayin’



Pam Hillman left her day job to manage all the work related tasks waiting at home, but four years later, this little angel is the reason she's thrilled beyond measure to have made that decision in 2012. God orchestrated that change in his perfect timing.

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  1. Hi Pam:

    It's often not the change per se that people object to; it's the hassle of making the change that causes the most worry. Who does not like and prefer cheap, light weight, thin, HD television sets? It might be more accurate to say that people don't like the transition stage that comes with change. Also, consider all the changes you could have made but did not and thus possibly avoided disasters which never happened.

    What is that saying? "Everyone wants to go to heaven but not right now." : )

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    1. Vince, you are spot on! It's the hassle that we don't like.

      We've been talking about remodeling our house for several years. My husband's a carpenter, and just as the cobbler's wife has no shoes, the carpenter's wife's house gets no change. ;)

      Both of us dread the process so much we just keep putting it off. There's never been a good time to do it, and I know that it's a job that should take a month, but could linger around like a bad cold for a year.

      If we ever get around to it, I'll look back and wonder why we didn't do it sooner. My husband will probably wish we never did. lol

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    2. How about all the changes I resisted only to have the CHANGE change, so by not learning the new way, I skipped completely over it.
      I keep waiting for them to perfect the smart phone, not update it constantly, make new ones annually. I drag my heels on all that and NEVER REGRET IT!

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    3. Hi Pam:

      I'm with your husband. I have never been able to seen renovations the same ever since I watched the TV show, "Murphy Brown". A philosopher once said that "hell is eternal recurrence" to which renovations are a close relative. : )

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    4. Mary, Mary, quite contrary, who would guess you'd be such a reactionary?

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  2. How perfect to have this back to back with Janet's post about waiting... we tend to resist both, but that's probably because we're human and somewhat silly!

    There are studies that show change is good for us. It freshens us. It keeps our mind active. It motivates us to re-learn or learn new...

    But complacency is a tempting master.

    Not in all things coffee, in all things coffee the KEURIG IS THE BOMB.

    I love mine.

    I keep a spare upstairs just in case mine dies.

    I love my coffee, I cannot deny it.

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    1. I loved Janet's post yesterday. I typed out a long comment, but it disappeared, all because of my reluctance to CHANGE...

      My browser of choice, Safari, has something wrong with it, and it locks up my computer, so I started using Chrome until I can figure out how to uninstall and re-install Safari. So I lost my comment to Janet's post. :(

      If I would have just made the change to a different browser a couple of weeks ago when all this started, my life would have been better. :)

      And, I'm out of caramel vanilla, but we have hazelnut coffee today. Yum! We also have Breakfast Blend and Donut Shop Regular blend, along with an assortment of dark roast, hot cocoa, Black tea, and cappucinos.

      Ruthy and I have the Keurigs set up, so if your MUST HAVE flavor isn't here, BYO K-cup and pop it in! :)

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    2. PAM and RUTHY, glad you liked my post. So sorry, Pam, that Safari took your comment on a extended trip. LOL

      I love my Keurig, too. Except it did let me down recently when we had neighbors in for brunch and it wouldn't make coffee. The "needle" or whatever the coffee comes through was clogged. It's working now thanks to a paperclip probe but I must remember to clean it a couple times a year...before I'm embarrassed.

      Janet

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  3. I remember how firmly I did not want a laptop. I was married to my desktop computer and couldn't imagine anything being better.

    #dumb

    #stubborn

    #lovemylaptop

    I can write anywhere now. It's a wonderful machine, it's my buddy...

    I have drawn the line at learning Scrivener, though. Not because it's bad (don't know!!!) but because my productivity is high already, so why mess that up?

    If it ain't broke, don't fix it! :)

    So that works for me, but I cheer for whatever works for others, because I wish every single one of my author buddies loved writing the way I do...

    Pam, this is such a wonderful post, and I'm over the moon in love with the Grandma and baby picture! You rocked The Polar Express!!!!

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    1. I remember my own great debate over desktop vs. laptop, Ruthy. Remember it well!

      Laptop won out and I've had 2 since then, then had the other long, drawn-out decision process before switching to a Macbook. Once done, I never looked back. Like Vince reminded us, it's the hassle of the process that I dread, the learning curve for some things, the mess (like in the remodeling project) in others.

      And, yep, I'm a big believer in "if it ain't broke, don't fix it". While I love having all the gadgets that make my writing and life in general easier, I can always go back to pen and paper to write (shudder! lol) and while I'm embracing some new gadgets in the kitchen like the instant pot, nothing beats a good ol' seasoned iron skillet when the chips are down.

      I'm a hybrid... mixing the old and the new. :)

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    2. Hi Pam:
      I know this is late but you really hit the spot with 'if it ain't broker, don't fix it." I'm still using Word 2003 and it still does everything I want and need to do. Why change for features I don't need and would not use any way. However, I always upgrade Scrivener because they are always free! It's so nice of them. I bought the program many years ago and I still have the latest version after untold upgrades. Now that's a fine company.

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  4. Pam, your grandbaby is precious. I love the picture.

    Change can be difficult, but I have found through the years it usually is welcomed in the end. I have gone through several changes this year. At work the change turned out to be the best for us all. At home, well I could use a lot of prayer the changes have been and are very difficult.

    Wishing you all a joyous week!

    Blessings,
    Cindy W.

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    1. Cindy, adding you to the prayer list!

      Changes in our work days, either losing a job, or being transferred to a different office or department are always scary because they usually happen suddenly and aren't OUR decisions. But I'm glad that in the end, the change at your work place worked out for the best. God is good!

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  5. Hi Pam! The photo of you and your grandchild is priceless!
    I'm an extremely structured person who loves her routine, so change has never been easy for me. About five years ago, a job loss, that I thought was the end of the world, turned out to be the most positive change I'd ever experienced. God is good! Thanks for a great post! Merry Christmas to you and your family.

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    1. Jill, I'm so glad that God orchestrated that change for you and that everything turned out so much better than you ever dreamed. This makes me smile!!

      Merry Christmas to you too! :)

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  6. Good morning, Pam.

    What a precious gift you're holding. Can't wait for my turn, but we must be patient... Hey, wasn't that yesterday's theme?

    Anyway, I've come to the conclusion that sometimes God gently nudges me in directions, and when I don't follow the lead He tends to close doors. It definitely gets my attention, but it's always reassuring to know that He's got my back. I have to add, things turn out better than I could ever imagine, which reminds me of His goodness and grace.

    Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year with your new little one!

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    1. Renee, while waiting for grandbabies, I never pressured my kids asking when they were going to start a family. Then when they told us they were expecting, we were excited, but it wasn't until she arrived that I went just a little crazy with love. And the fact that I get to keep her two days a week is icing on the cake. Those are precious Pammy/Ella days.

      Trust me, the wait is worth it! :)

      Renee, I oftentimes wonder if I didn't follow God's lead in some situation or another, but I do pray and ask his guidance on the smallest of decisions (okay, maybe not which flavor coffee to have this morning ... :) but anything that's life changing, I seek his will. I'm sure I've missed it many times, but he knows my heart and that I want to do his will above all, and maybe he provides another path to get me to where he wants me to be.

      Merry Christmas back at ya and we're so excited to have a little one to celebrate Christmas with. We're planning an "Ellafest" Friday night. The whole family is going to gather, eat soup, and just watch her play.

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  7. I struggle with changes in technology! Always! I'm so low-tech! I have a fairly slow internet provider but I don't want to change because...well, I know how this one works. :)

    Love your pic with baby. So cute!

    I've considered buying a Keurig but haven't made the change yet.

    We were the last family in town to get an answering machine and a DVR. Just sayin'...

    Merry Christmas!

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    1. I still have a flip phone, Debby! :) I'm low-low tech. :)

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    2. Debby, I'm so there with you. If I know how something works, I don't want to change, even if I think the change will be better.

      I recently bought an Instant Pot. It's similar to a crock pot and/or pressure cooker, and does all these wonderful things in less time. I have the cooker, but haven't used it because I'm not exactly sure how. I know how to use my crock pot and my iron skillet. This new gadget is kinda scary!

      Youtube is my friend, though. :)

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    3. I'm still trying to decide if I want to go the DVR route, so you're ahead of me.

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  8. I REALLY resist change.

    We still have the old coffee maker. (My daughter even offered to give me her old Keurig earlier this week, but I declined.)
    I still pay $21.95/mo for msn ever since we signed up for internet service in 2000 or 2001. I know, it should be free....
    I have an old cell phone that you must tap "7" button four times to text the "s".
    Ruthy, I do work on my laptop. :)
    When Windows 8 came out w/said laptop, I hated it so much, I googled, "I hate windows 8" and was surprised at the pages of articles from people just like me. No start button? I couldn't deal w/it.
    Change must be forced upon me, because like Vince mentioned, it's the hassle of making the change.

    When it comes to writing the actually book (please don't take the program I use...) I think I would be open to more ideas, because I'm not set yet. I'm not published. I'm trying my hand at historical and suspense. I don't have an editor or agent.

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    1. Connie, you fit right in here at Seekerville. I think we all resist change. :) Your daughter trying to give you her old Keurig reminds me of my oldest who loves to give me his old gadgets.

      My first iphone had been his. At the time, I had a basic phone that allowed me to TALK to people and text even though I only texted my kids and by the time I got the message typed out, they were a year older. But HE wanted a new iphone, so talked me into taking his old one, convincing me that I REALLY needed all the bells and whistles. For the longest, I didn't do anything more than I was doing already... just talking and texting ... and wondered why I was paying so much just to have a phone.

      Finally, the necessity of travel demanded that I figure out how to get my email on my phone. I finally figured out how to access Facebook, Twitter, Hootsuite, Seekerville :), etc. on it.

      It was a change that I really didn't want to make, didn't even see the need to make, but now I'm happy with it. And finally, I can actually finish my text before someone has a another birthday.

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    2. Connie, I hate Windows 8 with the fire of a thousand suns.

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  9. I hate change and don't do it well. Of course, God knows that, so He planned our lives so that we moved every five years for most of our married lives. Moving forces change in almost every area of your life!

    I'm ready to settle in for a bit...hopefully for the rest of our lives.

    And you have such a beautiful grandbaby! That's one change I'm looking forward to, but I'm not in too much of a hurry. The first wedding in the family was only six months ago. The next one is in February. Grandchildren will come in their own sweet time. :)

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    1. Jan, moving every five years? I can't imagine! We were building our house (remember hubby and his dad build houses) when we got married, but it wasn't quite finished so we lived with his parents for about 3 months, then moved in to our new house. That was 31 years ago. Before that, my parents moved once and I was at summer camp the week they moved.

      But a move would probably be good for all the clutter.

      You're going to love the grandbaby phase. But, as you said, no rush. And congrats to the recent newlyweds and the impending nuptials. Big changes for them as well. :)

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  10. Hi Pam, Great post on change. I think it is very important to have the faith and ability to make changes. Life just isn't that predictable nor stable. LOL I've been very blessed as change is so part of my lifestyle that it is easy for me. When I was growing up, we moved every year so that obviously involved many changes. One benefit of those changes, it is very easy for me to meet new people and make new friends. Then I was teaching and every year was a new set of students, parents, events. I purposely changed grades and schools, just because I love change. It keeps life from getting boring. smile

    Change also builds your faith. It makes you rely on the Lord. Yay for that.

    Merry Christmas Pammers. Embrace those changes.

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    1. So interesting, Sandra. As a child, your family moved often; mine didn't.

      You changed jobs often; I didn't. I worked for Hardy Mfg for 28 years, although my job(s) in the office changed over the years.

      My husband's parents still live in the same house they've lived in all his life. We live in the house we built when we got married.

      I wonder if personality or childhood experiences mold us regarding big events such as moving, changing jobs, etc. I'm sure both play a part, but personality is probably the biggest factor, wouldn't you think?

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  11. PAM, excellent post! Change is hard for me. Not just because change requires me to step out of my comfort zone. My problem is that I'm really technically challenged and anything new is hard for me. When I first posted in Seekerville, I was afraid to schedule it for fear I'd mess it up so I would stay up till midnight to push publish. Then once I got the courage to schedule it, I didn't trust that it would actually appear so I stayed up to be sure. That seems pathetic to me now. Thankfully I have the support of some techie Seekers!

    Now I love change that involves conveniences like my iPhone and your Swiffer mop, Pam. I especially love change that brings joy into our lives like your precious grandbaby brings to you.

    The change I really struggle with is loss. Yet I know loss is inevitable. I try to savor the moments, the connections and not miss what matters.

    As to writing, I am tethered to my desktop. I have a laptop but I'm so much slower with the keyboard. Maybe one day...

    Janet

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    1. Janet, you put it all in such easy to understand language. We fear change when we don't understand something or we're unfamiliar with the territory. I used to fear air travel... not just the flying part, but the whole experience ... packing, don't forget anything, security, getting to my gate, finding transportation from airport to hotel, etc. Now, I've done it so many times that I don't fear it. I don't necessarily LIKE it, but the fear is gone. The exhaustion from air travel is still there, though! :(

      And, I check to make sure my Seekerville posts are live, too. But that's because I fear Tina! lol

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    2. Pam, I still fear air travel. Never makes sense that we'll stay up. LOL But I do it. Do what we fear is courage, right????

      Now I don't fear Tina. That may be a mistake. LOL

      Janet

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  12. The biggest change we made as a family was four years ago when I moved from being a full-time teacher to a stay-at-home mom and part-time substitute teacher. The stress of trying to give everything I have to help my students and be everything my very needy family needs was at such an all-time high that I got sick with pneumonia and the flu for the first time in my life. Historically, I had missed only 5 days of school in five years and that was for the prolonged death and funeral of my husband's grandfather. I pushed through family turmoil and a miserable teaching situation for a year more than I should have resisting the change and call to come home. It was so bad that I had anxiety attacks on my way to school almost every day. Coming home was the best thing I ever did, and God was so good to provide for us. I finally had the energy and ability to care for my ADHD son who was undiagnosed and not getting occupational therapy until I came home, even though I suspected he needed it all. Although I hated the change at the time, God knew what he was doing. Things have grown worse as far as family neediness and I have been absent from Seekervill for quite some time because, on top of our normal household of four adults (two needing extra care) and two kids, we have added another extremely needy adult to our numbers. There are days I believe I should have gotten a medical degree instead of a teaching degree. The aunt we care for has spent almost 14 weeks off an on in the hospital since June 1st. The change to our life has been difficult - more like the transition, as Vince said - and I guess this has turned into a prayer request. Pray for my family's health, sanity, and spiritual strength. I cling to Christ but I have discovered recently I have managed to allow coping with all our family issues to pull me away from studying my Bible. Pray we also find time to just be our core family, enjoying each other's company and encouraging one another. Thanks! I miss all of you and am trying to change 😜 my routines to provide for Bible Study and writing endeavors (Seekerville included). Merry Christmas friends.

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    1. Crystal, you and your family are definitely in our prayers!! Reading through this, I could sense how well-grounded you are. You are an amazing mom and caretaker for those you love.

      And even though things are tough now, it sounds as if it's SO much better now that you're there to provide structure for the ones who need care. And that medical degree you mentioned? I don't have a medical degree, but I'd say that caring and compassion are a huge part of the medical field, and you have it in spades, darling!

      Praying for those quiet times that you crave, even if it's just a cup of coffee, a candle, and a short devotion, it will rejuvenate you and set your mind at ease.

      Merry Christmas, dear friend!

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  13. Change is difficult for me on so many levels. As far as my writing goes I think I might be ready for the next levels that will need to be implemented that is of course if the Lord provides the money needed. I am going to apply for the Mount Hermon Conference scholorship and see where that takes me.

    Merry Christmas, to all of you.

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    1. Go for it, Wilani! Wouldn't that be so cool if you got to go? Praying for you! :)

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    2. Wilani, I hope you get the scholarship!

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  14. Oh goodness, timely post, Pam!!
    Since my family's world changed with our move in 2014, there's been SO much transition for all of us. Loads has happened too. My first four books have come out, new schools, new jobs...and NOW I'm in the process of applying for another new job - one that really suits my professional expertise (It's with an Autism Facility here in NC)
    Anyway, I'm ALSO dipping my toe into Indy publishing this upcoming year - so...yep...lots of change. Exciting and scary.

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    1. Btw, I'm REALLY glad we moved from a coffee maker to a Keurig ;-) AWESOME change!!

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    2. This is my worst nightmare...moving with kids, and all the STUFF that comes with it.

      In 2016, my DIL got her masters in accounting, took all four CPA exams and passed, planned a wedding, moved into a new apartment in July/August, got married in August, and started her new job in Sept. (My son was just along for the ride, although she graciously credits him with helping her stay sane.)

      I thought that was bad enough, but they didn't have kids and very little possessions.

      Pepper, your change makes me break out in hives.

      It's official. I'm a wimp!

      Maybe I need another cup of joe.

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    3. Oh Pam, it should make the strongest heart tremor. Super duper tough on my kids!!

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    4. Same here, Pepper! It took me FOREVER to convince Project Guy to replace his flaky old drip coffeemaker with a new Keurig. We got a great deal on the Costco model and now he loves it!

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    5. I moved ONCE in my married life. I had four children, the youngest two years old, the oldest twelve.
      I got a fair amount of warning...and here's the thing about rural life...my husband came home one day and said, "I bought Frank's land. There's a house on it. We're moving."
      Yep, not exactly going to designer show homes and such.
      And the house, which I knew very well, it was next door to us and my best friend lived there and was moving, so GRIEF included in the big move. But the house? It was build with the same floorplan as my current rented house. Brothers married sisters and shared one set of blue prints. (these folks were in all ways CHEAP. Thus the tiny houses I've lived in.)

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    6. Continued....
      So all my furniture fit. And like I said I had about a month's warning. And I started throwing stuff away.
      I'd heard the saying, "Three moves equals a fire"... so I figured I should throw away 1/3 of all I owned. I did end up hauling away three PICK UP loads of crap.
      Then the day before the move, my parents (quite young back then) came over and my dad said, "We'll help you move everything we can lift and leave everything else for tomorrow when you've got the neighbors coming in."
      Well, guess what? The three of us, helped by my four daughters (the two year old was especially helpful) moved almost everything. I MEAN EVERYTHING. (my folks and I even moved the beds--turns out three people can move a mattress. We slept in the new house that night)
      When the crew showed up the next day the move took about two hours. Mainly a piano and a couch. Then we fed everyone and had a nice party.
      The next day I was so exhausted I only wanted to collapse and here comes a very nice neighbor lady saying, "We're unpacking and putting away all the boxes you've got left. If we don't you still won't have them unpacked five years from now."
      I wanted to kill her, but instead manners prevailed and we worked a long time, hung curtains, just did so much stuff and I've always been grateful to her that she forced me to do that. (semi-grateful, she was right)

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    7. Pepper - I can't tell you how much I admire you as a lady and a mom.
      Your family is wonderful.

      And indie pub you say?
      Woot!

      Exciting! Was just reading yesterday that Inspys are now taking indie entries. Woot!

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    8. Yeah, but Mary, she could have waiting a few more days until you'd had a bit of rest.

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    9. Hi Pam: This was a great topic. I've come back to go over the comments again and it is well worth the look!
      Mary wrote: "Brothers married sisters and shared one set of blue prints." How far back in the country does she live? Not what we would say is 'crystal clear'.
      And as far as putting up boxes after a move, that's true as can be. I still have boxes from several moves ago in a storage shed unopened. "Just fodder for the estate sale" I tell my wife.

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  15. I tend to like change...well, not the part where my daughter married a military man and moved seven hours away and is now going to be relocated and there's only a 20% chance the base will be an hour closer to us and not three times further away. Whew!

    Okay, so I don't like all change. However, when it comes to technology and personal life-altering changes, I'm more prone to just go with it. Mountain Man, on the other hand, not so much, which often affects the changes I make. If I wasn't afraid of him having a stroke, I would have walked away from the day job three years ago. I love my job, but the stress has started to outweigh the reward.

    As for coffee, no Keurig or me. I've recently started making a cold-brewed coffee concentrate (less acidic to make coffee this way) that I store in the fridge up to a week. Then anytime I want a cup of coffee, I can boil some water in my kettle and mix 1/3 part concentrate to 2/3 part hot water for a nice cup of coffee.

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    1. Rhonda, daughter's impending move: not a change I would embrace either. :(

      Change, jobs, and our significant others. Thankfully, hubby and I are both stick-in-the-Mississippi-mud types, so the thought of packing up and moving hasn't really ever been on our radar. There's no way he'd leave his cows... unless the grandbaby moved away, then all bets are off! lol

      And the stress of my day job was killing me, so I understand your problem. I struggled with that decision for 10-15 years before everything lined up so that I really felt at peace about making the leap. Praying for you!

      You coffee concentrate sounds yummy, quick and easy. :)

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  16. Sandra's comment "Change builds your faith" - very good reminder.
    When we can't control things, or predict the outcome, it automatically forces us to rely on Someone who CAN control things and knows the future :-)

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  17. Speaking of change... I'm taking a break from the computer to make a whirlwind tour of my house. Must decorate, clean, wrap presents, clean guest room.

    I wish you all lived closer... I'm put on the coffee, fix brunch, and then y'all could help me!

    I'll be back!

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  18. Thought-provoking post, Pam!

    Okay, here's my most recent failed effort to change. Several years ago I made the change from PC to Mac and never looked back . . . except there has never been a decent version of Quicken for Mac, and I have around 20 years and counting of our financial data saved in Quicken for Windows.

    So this year Quicken came out with a "new, improved" Quicken for Mac. Everything I read sounded really encouraging, so I took the plunge and copied over all my Windows data to the Mac.

    Well, it looks different, it acts different, and some of my favorite Windows features are nonexistent. So last Saturday we manually re-entered all the transactions I'd entered on the Mac over the last two weeks back into the Windows version on the very basic PC laptop we bought a few years ago just to be able to run Quicken for Windows.

    So . . . some change is definitely not so great. :(

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    1. Not fun, Myra. :(

      The good news is that since that PC laptop is a dedicated server for your financial records, it won't be as much at risk for hacking as a laptop you use for all kinds of browsing.

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  19. So far the message on Seekerville this week is wait for the change... er, or something like that. either way, waiting and changing seem to be inevitable, and when done in God's way/timing - ALWAYS for the better.

    that being said - change is my acquaintance, not necessarily my friend. I don't kick and scream (much) because I recognize it's necessary. As a graphic artist who started on an old fashioned layout board using xacto blades and amberlith and is now working on computers using delete buttons and electronic masking - well, if you don't change, you find yourself without a job. This old dog is learning programming because the workplace requires me to be a hybrid - part Graphic artist/part programmer. My 25+ years of graphics makes me a very expensive artist on payroll, but my fledgling programming makes me a very inexpensive programmer who happens to know how to make things look pretty.
    The next big change may be a forced foray into the writing world - which is why I'm sitting at the feet of the Wise Ones here at Seekerville, sort of girding my loins for if/when that change is foisted upon me.

    Love, love, love the Grandma/precious grand-daughter picture. Was that on a Polar Express Train ride? If so, I bet it was a wonderful experience.

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    1. We do what we have to do, don't we, Deb?

      Yes, it was The Polar Express. You think I'd go out in public like that for any other reason or for anybody other than my g'baby????

      I wore that granny gown and mobcap on a 3 hour drive, on the train, and for 3 hours back home. Nobody at Cracker Barrel blinked an eye since there was about 100 other people there wearing PJs.

      The people at the convenience store on the way home were a little leery of us. lol

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  20. I agree with Vince...(as usual) that it's the hassle of change I don't like! I'm beginning to look forward to the next big change in my life which is moving from the farm into a small town (252 people) and starting a new job. That's probably because I've down a good portion of the packing/downsizing and also because now I'm 2000 miles from all that hassle enjoying the sun!

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    1. Great post, Pam and I LOVE my Kuerig and so does my mom now that she's learnt to use it.

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    2. Marianne, having lived in the country on one farm or another all my life, some days I wonder if living in a small apartment without any responsibility outside would be less stress.

      But I'll probably live out my days in the country on the farm. Good to know you've almost got the packing/downsizing done! :)

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    3. Marianne, congrats on your new job! I hope the move goes well. In the meantime, enjoy the warm temps and your visit with Tina and Sandra!

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  21. Pam there is not a change I've been thinking of making....however....I have been feeling like I need a change.
    I think my life is too much of a rut.
    Not because I mind the rut. Quite the opposite, I'm extremely content in the rut. But I think I need a spur, a challenge, just a new experience or hobby or SOMETHING. I think it would bring freshness to my writing and to my life.
    I just can't figure out what that change IS.
    Does anyone have ideas? How to get out of my rut?
    And now, I'm not jumping out of an airplane. Parachuting or in all ways risking my life, hold no attraction for me.

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    1. You could always switch from PC to Mac. :)

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    2. Got my Mac. Never looked back!
      I'm with ya, Myra!
      Macs rawk!

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    3. Amen, KC!

      BTW, have you upgraded to Sierra? Still on Yosemite and haven't taken the plunge yet.

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    4. Goodness, Mary, is being in a rut the same thing as having too much time on your hands? Because I can't relate to that at all.

      You're just to efficient. You don't need something new to do, you just need to be more inefficient with what you're doing.

      Btw, I got the tree and the piano decorated with my Christmas card display. Very low key.... Just tulle, burlap and white lights. Next on my list is to finish cleaning the den and dining room.

      Mary, since you seem a bit BORED, come on over and help me! Or just finish writing my novella. I'll take all the help I can get!

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    5. Mary, I think you need to come visit me. Come get warm. (Not as warm as visiting Tina and Sandra, but at least it would be better than winter in Nebraska!).

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  22. I loved this post, Pam. You're right. Change is inevitable. The hardest changes for me are the ones that are out of my control, like my hubs' work schedule. A last minute trip had him gone this entire month. Sigh.

    I'm learning to look at the big picture and find the benefits when those kinds of changes come along.

    I have a boy who resists all change. Helping him through the inevitable changes is teaching me grace and perspective. :)

    As God has done some healing in me this year, I'm seeing stretching changes in my heart. I hope I'll be able to live with those new ways of thinking and processing life as the new year comes along.

    Have a very merry Christmas, Pam, and all of Seekerville!

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    1. Jeanne, you are so right. The changes that we can't control are the hardest, and usually those are the ones that make us worry if they're taking us in the wrong direction.

      Hope your hubby gets home soon!

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  23. Many times I like change. It's when I feel out of control that I don't.
    Riiiiight.
    Like I was ever IN control. ;)

    How God must laugh at me frequently.
    One day, perhaps I'll "get" it. Until then, as my wise DH says, "We get the fine opportunity to repeat the lesson."
    HA!

    Thanks for this post.
    And how perfectly wonderful that you're with that precious wee one. LOVE it!

    Thanks for this excellent post and MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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      Merry Christmas!

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  24. Change isn't usually something I plan, but it happens anyway. All change isn't for the better, future and see how. That's when trusting in God's bigger plan becomes my lifeline. Cute grandbaby, Pam!

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  25. Pam, I love this quote of yours! "What if we minimize the worry and just do it?"

    That's so true, and something I never think of. I'm a natural worrier and take forever to make decisions. So you've inspired me today!

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    1. Missy, I too take forever to make decisions. FOREVER. So you're in good (or maybe bad, depending on your perspective) company.

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    2. LOL, it feels like a bad trait sometimes. :) It's not so much that I don't like change as it is that I fear making the wrong decision.

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  26. Hi Pam:

    Late last night when I wrote my first post I just assumed that photo in your blog was the baby and her mother. The resemblance is so striking. Does everyone say she takes after her grandma?

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    1. Ah, Vince, you are so sweet! That's the first anyone has said she looks like me, so thank you! :)

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  27. Change is inevitable.
    Unless you're dealing with a vending machine ;)

    I've spent so many years working for software companies that I've become what they call a 'late adapter.' It's common for software to be released before all the bugs are worked out, since the developers are under pressure to keep to the schedule no matter what. But it's taught me to wait a bit before upgrading to a new model of anything. So if you need an excuse to be a Luddite, you can always use that one :)

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    1. Evelyn, I am with you on waiting before upgrading to new software. I'd rather they get the bugs worked out first!

      LOL on the vending machine. Too true!

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  28. My sister and mother are the type of people who hate change and try to avoid it at all costs, but I'm actually okay with change as long as the change is for the better. I'm actually quite adaptable... for the good kind of changes.

    But if I don't want the change then it's a definite no, I don't want it to happen. A few years ago my parents were pushing for us to move to Texas or to Arizona. I didn't want to move (none of my siblings did) I liked it up here in Ohio! Yes my uncle, aunt, and cousins lived in Texas so we would be moving closer to them, but what about the family I would have to leave behind? What about all my friends? What about the place where I had been born and raised? I love Ohio, it is a beautiful state- even if the winters are a little chilly- and I wasn't ready to leave it. The moving was a change that I desperately did not want to happen, and thankfully it did not- though my parents do gripe about the cold and how much nicer it would be if we were living in Arizona every once in a while- and for that I am very thankful.

    So on a whole I am very adaptable to change, but there are some things that I would like to remain the same- forever.

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      Glad you got to remain in Ohio. :)

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  29. Pam, I've always been pretty adaptable. However lately at work I find myself resisting change. I tell myself it's because I've been here long enough to know they are just going to mess it up. LOL! Reality is with less than two years left to work I want them to leave me alone.

    I think perhaps we become less flexible as we age. Oh that makes me sound old!

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    1. Terri, I can so relate! lol It is hard to change when you've been doing something successfully for so long.

      But hang in there. Just two more years and you'll be free. :)

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  30. PAMMY -- LOVE the Mrs. Claus pic of you and your little treasure! I sure hope you used that pic for a Christmas card because it's absolutely perfect!!

    You said: "But I can honestly say that I don’t have a lot of regrets, and when I’ve made a major decision, I’ve been so pleased and at peace that I wondered why it took me so long to take the plunge."

    That's how I felt after I quit my day job to write full-time, Pammy. And it was SO fun to make money for something I really enjoyed doing, so Keith and I feel incredibly blessed that we both work for ourselves out of our homes. I used to HATE the threat of snow or ice, but no more. We wake up, make a wood fire, and listen to Christmas carols or worship music while we work in front of a winter wonderland right outside our wall of windows. Best decision we ever made, and we are SO very grateful we don't have to drive anywhere!

    Hugs!!
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  31. First Pam I must say that your grand baby is precious!

    Change has never been much of a big deal for me and that can be because I have moved around quite often in my life both in locale and in jobs. It may just be natural too. When I took the Strengths Finder assessment one of my top five was Adaptability. One of the others is Empathy. I think that in the long run it will all help me relate to someone somewhere. :)

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and triumphs!

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  32. Pam asked: "Thinking over changes that were a long time coming, did you think you made the right decision or not? Looking back, would you have made the change sooner rather than later?"

    I've been published since 2008, but it took me until January of 2014 to make a decision I felt God was asking me to make, and that was to lay promo, contracts, pitches, proposals down for an 8-month sabbatical to focus more on God, family, and the sheer joy of writing. And it was the best decision I ever made, freeing me up to draw closer to God and my family and actually enjoy writing again.

    I don't think I could have made the change sooner than that, though, because it took that long for God to get something through my thick skull. A critical lesson for all Christian authors but especially for me at the time, and that is that our writing is not about us, it's about Him.

    Yes, I lost a year in the publication scheme of things, but I gained a perspective that has brought me more peace and joy than I ever expected, and NOT from the things I expected to give it to me, either. He's in the driver's seat now, and that's the way I (and my husband) like it! :)

    Great post, my friend!

    Hugs,
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    1. Hi Julie:

      I think our writing production will be judged above as being amortized over all the years we spent leaning the craft as well as our published years. In the grand scheme of things, taking a year off may well prove to have increased your lifetime production.

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    2. Julie, so glad you took a break and rejuvenated yourself.

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  33. .
    Two choices diverged in the big box store
    And sorry I was I could buy just one, no more
    As a shopper once decisive, decide I could not
    Did I favored beta or VHS? That's something I forgot
    So I made no choice which did right by me
    For eventually I bought an HD DVD TV.

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    1. lol, Vince. This makes perfect sense. If we wait long enough, there will be a shiny new toy and we can just get that one. :)

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  34. I have to echo what others have said about your grandbaby - - she is PRECIOUS!! I'm sure you enjoy her so very much.
    Change can be hard - - especially for those of us who are really comfortable in our little set routines, LOL. Right now I'm praying about a big change in my writing (possibly taking a *big* step) and just thinking about it makes me a wee bit nervous (okay, more than a wee bit, actually). ;)
    So.....I will keep praying and go from there.
    Holiday Hugs, Patti Jo :)

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    1. We're comfortable with the familiar, Patti Jo. And we'll pray for your major decision. :)

      And, yes, we're enjoying our grandbaby very, very much!

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  35. I love baby pics...grandbaby, nieces and nephews, children....love them all.

    Sometimes I wonder at the changes I resist. Like the switch from a smaller, sedan type vehicle to my su-weet SUV with AWD. Because we got a lot of snow and ice two years ago. So much so that my kids started calling my car "Mom's off-road vehicle." When my hubby bought a hideously ugly truck with 4 wheel drive, I wasn't impressed. Then I drove it, and told him I either needed something like it of my own or I was keeping it. :)Haven't gone off road since.

    I am working toward a major change (I hope) of being able to eventually write full time. Still trying to figure out if that's my plan or God's.

    Cheers!

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  36. Pam, thanks for making me think about change. With everything going on in my life right now, I haven't thought at all about what I'd change or should change. Hmm. Maybe less procrastination and more doing!

    Thinking of all the Villagers who mentioned big changes in the workplace or with family additions in the comments. Hope all goes well for all of those changes.

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    1. Tanya, sometimes my changes seem minor compared to what others are going through. And sometimes there aren't any changes to be made, are there? At least not in the foreseeable future.

      Glad to know you're not struggling with some monumental decision right now

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  37. My mom and dad have Keurigs. Can't see me owning one, though.

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  38. Sorry so late in commenting! The post wasn't up right away before I went to bed, and I completely forgot to pop back over here during the day.

    Anyway, I'm not the type of person who likes change either. I mean, if something's working, why fix it right? But I realize that some things need to change & that some of those changes are for the better. I don't always go along with it quietly, sometimes it's kicking and screaming...lol! My husband has learned to ease me into any kind of change if possible so I get used to a new idea or way of doing things. Then I can absorb it, think about it, and more often than not, he's right. I know life can change in an instant and that's not the kind of thing I'm talking about. In those times, I've had to learn to go with the punches, so to speak. God's done a work in me :-) I still don't always like it, but I can deal with it better now than when I was younger.

    My husband got me an early Christmas present. I too, am the only one who drinks coffee. So I have a little 4 cup coffee pot I use. I've been talking about getting a single serve Keurig type maker for a while now. I didn't want any of the big ones because if I wanted anymore coffee than my normal 2 cups, I'd just want one more so getting a big one seemed a waste of space and money. Well, my husband got me a Hamilton Beach single serve maker that you can use either the Kcup pods or your own coffee (it comes with a small permanent filter)! Since I love grinding my own beans, it was a perfect gift :-) And if I wanted a treat, maybe I can find a smaller box of specialty Kcup coffee blends to enjoy :-) I've used it several dozen times already and it works perfectly for me!

    Great post Pam, I enjoyed reading it!

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  39. Ah ! Change. The older we get the harder it can be. For 15 years I was a home school mom. I fought too continue when God was clearly saying it was time for a change. I'd said to the Lord I was committed to this until my youngest son graduated. I have five children. Youngest son is dyslexic. Once that was discovered I knew I had to set aside homeschooling and get a part-time job to pay for a private school that had an excellent program for him.
    Over the years I've had to adjust to a variety of unexpected circumstances.
    All my kids are grown and I recently placed my elderly mother in assisted living. Now I am asking God to make away for me to retire from my part-time job to devote more time to writing. I've been caring for three of my grandchildren the last few years and it gets tricky with work.
    I think the time has come and I feel the change is at hand. I need the confidence to trust what I feel God is saying and the faith to take the steps.
    I don't drink coffee. But my hubby loves his one cup Keurig. As a tea drinker I will say this. Don't run tea pods through a Keurig if you hate coffee because the coffee flavor isn't filtered out. LOL!

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    1. Jubilee, sounds like you've had several major changes in your life, but it also sounds like you made wise decisions regarding your kids, grands and your mom.

      Praying that this is the time God has set aside for your writing.

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  40. Thanks so much for this post, Pam. There will be plenty of changes ahead for my family...daughter's family adoption of two Haitian siblings is pending, and my retirement in about a year, so I can focus and write. I've been waiting for so long. Whew...makes my heart flutter thinking about it all. Yes, time to take that leap of faith. Blessings to you...love your costume and your grand baby is precious!

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    1. Rebecca, so many exciting changes coming to you and your family in the next few months, the kids and your retirement. All wonderful changes that you can embrace!

      Enjoy!!

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  41. PAM, this is such a timely post! Change is hard but necessary. Cute picture of your and your grand baby.

    MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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  42. Hi Pam.I agree that change is hard but it is usually for the best. In 1991 I was hired as a part- time librarian. As my days increased so did my job duties and in a few years I became the cataloger. Our small public library still used shelf lists, printed cards and the wooden cabinet that stored these cards. In 2003 we converted to an automated checkout system but the steps getting there were sometimes almost overwhelming. A change for the good but a lot of work to achieve it!
    Merry Christmas!
    Connie
    cps1950(AT)gmail(DOT)com

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