I didn't go to theology school.
Then when I was a much more mature 21-year-old, I was definitely going to work in publicity. No question. Theology was so in the past. I wanted to work with books. Specifically romance novels. I'd move to NYC and work in publishing as a publicist. I'd be the best book publicist around. I was sure of it.
I didn't get any job offers in publicity.
So I switched gears, after all at 22 I was both wiser and more determined, and my new plan was to be a romance editor. I was in NYC for the long run. I scoffed at colleagues who talked about wanting to leave the city to have families or a yard. I had a rat-infested park on my block, same thing as a yard. I was focused, I was confident, and this time my plan was on track. I landed the perfect job at St. Martin's Press in editorial with a fabulous boss and a cool team. I had the job, I had the drive, I was meeting amazing authors and making amazing friends on my romance team, but something was missing.
The plan was working perfectly.
As years went by I hit some big milestones in my career: first acquisition, first award nominee, first bestseller. Everyone told me how great I was at my job, and I was focused on being great at my job but... I was unhappy. I was lonely in New York and throwing myself into my career plan wasn't helping. I missed my family in Nashville - and I mean that literally. I was so dedicated to my plan I missed my little sister's college graduation, my grandfather's funeral, my brother's courthouse wedding. Sure, I went home the weekend after my sister graduated. And yes, I flew home the week after my grandfather passed before his funeral and made it to my brother's celebratory wedding reception, but being so far from my support system was wearing on me...as was the creeping doubt that maybe I didn't love my job the way I'd thought I would. I loved my colleagues. I loved my authors. But I didn't love being an editor.
My life was going according to plan but I started to realize, my plan wasn't working for me anymore. What do you do when your plan fails?
For me, it meant hitting pause. I threw "the plan" out, stopped trying to live my life based on what I thought I needed to do to achieve my definition of success. I made some calls. I made some lists. I took what'd I'd learned and made some changes. What did I want?
I wanted to move closer to my family. I wanted to leave editorial. I wanted a career that allowed me to still do what I love - working with authors, building careers, developing projects - but in a way that would fit me better. I wanted to have more of a work-life balance. Which is how I ended up an agent with the Seymour Agency working in Nashville. It wasn't my original plan, but so what? For years I felt trapped in NYC because leaving meant failure, leaving meant the fear of the unknown, but now I can't help but think I'm where I'm meant to be right at this moment. Here for my baby sister's engagement. Here for a difficult family diagnosis. Reconnecting with friends, helping out with my grandmothers. I had to accept that there are a whole lot of different paths you can take if you let yourself be open to them.
Now...how does that apply to you? The writer?
Simple: it's great to have a plan, to know what you want, but sometimes things don't happen like you think they will. Sometimes you have to shift gears. I'm not saying don't write down your goals and strive for them, but I am saying that if something doesn't feel right, if you're frustrated, sit down and reassess.
Here's some real-life practical advice from me to you. Every author's journey to publication and success looks different, so don't be afraid to follow your own path if needed or even throw out the plan.
Why haven't I been signed by an agent?
1. Maybe your book just isn't ready yet. I often get pitches from authors who aren't technically ready for representation. Meaning their writing still needs work. The voice might be missing, the story arch might be too simplistic, the dialogue might be unrealistic, the syntax might be a bit too amateur. Just because you've finished writing your book doesn't mean you're finished working on it.
Even published authors are constantly honing their craft, so don't be afraid to hit pause on your timetable and admit to yourself that "hey, it's amazing and inspiring that I've finished a book, but now I'm going to really pay more attention to the technical side of writing." Join a writer's circle, get some beta readers, attend workshops. Step back from pitching and querying and focus on your craft. For every author who sat down and instantly wrote a bestseller, there are five more who had to write and rewrite to get there.
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2. Maybe your book just isn't The One. As an agent, I'm looking for authors whose voice I am passionate about, whose writing inspires me, and... who I think I can sell. Sometimes I get queries that are creative and inventive but have no idea what to do with them. Okay, you wrote an Amish time travel YA... sounds cool, but do I know the inspirational YA market? Is there an inspirational YA market? And would they want time travel or Amish? If my answer to any of these is "I don't know" then I'm not going to waste your time by signing you. We always say don't write to trends, but the flip side to that is unless I can see a publication strategy for your book, I'm not going to be the right fit.
So what can you do? Maybe it means doing more research on the market by gathering strong comp titles in your genre - show me that there's a market for Amish YA! -, maybe that means doing more research on the agents you pitch. In some cases, maybe it means shelving this book while you start on another project. As I mentioned before, authors learn something new with each book they write. There could be something missing from your Amish YA that a little distance and time will help you see.
3. Maybe a traditional path isn't right for you. Some authors find it weird to hear an agent advocating indie publishing, but I realize that the traditional path isn't right for everyone. Are you a type A personality who loves to be hands on? Do you want to publish and write shorter stories? Are you writing something that isn't easily defined? Indie publishing is a great way to find an audience for genres that are harder to sell traditionally. Just look at the thriving paranormal romance genre in digital right now. That said, if you do decide to go indie, commit to it. You're publishing a book when you go indie. It's not a placeholder.
Often I get queries from authors telling me that the book they've pitch me just came out on Amazon two weeks ago. Ummm...okay? My primary job as an agent is to sell your work to publishing houses, so pitching me a story that's already been published doesn't start us off on the right foot. If you've tried indie and want a more hybrid career (traditional and indie) or just found it wasn't for you, then come up with a new idea and query that - not the book you've already put up for sale.
So if you aren't happy, you aren't seeing the success you want, don't fret. Instead, sit down, look at what you're writing, identify what you really want, and don't be afraid to change paths.
What are your thoughts and questions about the journey?
What do you do when your plan fails??
What do you do when your plan fails??
Born in Nashville, Tennessee, Elizabeth “Lizzie” Poteet attended Colby College where she majored in English and Religious Studies. While studying at St. Andrews, she realized that though she enjoyed Shakespeare and the Dead Sea Scrolls, she preferred reading stories with a little more heat and heart. Lizzie took her passion for romance and turned it into a position with RT Bookreviews as a romance reviewer. In 2011, she joined the editorial team at St. Martin's Press where she worked with romance, YA, nonfiction, and women’s fiction. Then in 2015, Lizzie became the e-book original coordinator for SMP Swerve, helping launch the digital-only romance imprint.
Lizzie is always looking for a good love story. She loves classic romance tropes, strong dialogue, sassy heroines, witty banter, and good old fashion romance. She’s actively seeking inspirational romance, cozy mystery, New Adult, YA, romantic suspense, historical and contemporary romances, and loves anything with a happy ending.
When a plan fails, well that's when I have to go back and re-evaluate the plan! I have to ask God "okay now what?" and trust Him to guide me. Maybe my plan wasn't the right plan or maybe it needed to be tweaked a bit...or maybe God was telling me to throw out the plan altogether and start over...lol!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely have to 100% agree with this statement: "Simple: it's great to have a plan, to know what you want, but sometimes things don't happen like you think they will. Sometimes you have to shift gears. I'm not saying don't write down your goals and strive for them, but I am saying that if something doesn't feel right, if you're frustrated, sit down and reassess." Love this!
No, I'm not a writer, but I really appreciate the insight to the writers or editors world. There's so much wisdom in this post, thanks for sharing Lizzie :-)
Amazon gift card = more books! LOL! Thanks for the chance to win it.
Thanks Trixi! I know lately I've definitely been feeling like I'm where I'm meant to be at this moment. Sometimes you just have to listen, whether you're a writer or not!
DeleteCoffee is on! Guest in the house! Delighted to welcome literary agent Lizzie Poteet to Seekerville. (How can you not get excited about someone with my favorite heroine's name - Lizzie Bennet!??)
ReplyDeleteWe're delighted to have you with us and we even brought the good china out. Nutella pancakes and Belgian waffles are cooking!
I have had different plans throughout my life that came to nothing. Looking back I can see that the alternative was actually a better road to take.
ReplyDeleteYou know, Mary, I have to say that this has been true in my life as well.
DeleteWhen the road behind me crumbled and I found myself on a new road..after my initial grumbling I have ALWAYS discovered that the path actually led to right where I was standing- where I was supposed to be. And until that happens to you, what I said makes no sense.
But it's truly how God works.
Someone said something interesting to me this week. They said God removes some people from your life for a reason, don't chase after them. The same is true of our paths, and if we are smart we see the wisdom in this.
Mary, "The Road Not Taken" is one of my favorite poems. I love Frost. I love his genuineness... and life hands us so many choices throughout the years, it's often a question of which? When? Where?
DeleteI love your take on this, that retrospect shows us so much more. I think that comes back to that age equates growing wisdom thing. :) Hopefully that works, Mary!
Wise words, Tina. 😍
DeleteI think the thing I struggled with was not letting the fear of making the wrong choice keep me from making any choice. So often I would look back and say, "duh, I should have done XYZ," but each step I took, whether it was "right" or "wrong" has lead me to where I am and who I am. That applies to writing as well. Sure, looking back you can see a missed opportunity, but how did the path you're on give you something different and useful?
DeleteAnd I want to say, boy, Lizzie, aren't you in a nice position for next year's ACFW conference in Nashville. You and Barbara Scott. Both Nashvillians or are you Nashvillites??
ReplyDeleteNashvillians will do, Tina. Wish I could have hopped on Seekerville earlier today, but on the bright side I wrote more than 1100 words this morning and prepared props and books to sell at tonight's "Fall Flair" (code for craft fair with hors d'oeuvres). lol
DeleteLizzie, we should "do" coffee sometime. I'd love to meet you! I live out in the Mount Juliet area near the lake.
Nashvillian has always sound both cool and a little nefarious to me ;) but it is a great city for bookish people!
DeletePlans sometimes are made to be changed. I have found in life that many times my plans had to change and while at the time I questioned God as to the reason, but looking back now I see he steered me in a better place.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the great post Lizzie, I enjoyed reading about your journey and understand being away from family and having the deep desire to go 'home'.
Blessings,
Cindy W.
Exactly, Cindy W. Exactly.
DeleteHaving to change gears sucks! But what's that saying about when one door closes....
DeleteWelcome to Seekerville, Lizzie. Your post is timely for me. Lately, I've been switching gears on a daily basis. I have to trust that God's plan is better than my own, so I'm following His lead. Thanks for visiting today!
ReplyDeleteAnd switching gears takes a certain amount of bravery, Jill. Right?
DeleteWhen I was in the midst of my own change, I know hearing from others going through the same thing gave me confidence. We've all been there!
DeleteLizzie, this is all so true, I have changed directions (or been forced to) countless times in my life, and sometimes I really can look back and say it was All For The Best. There are other path-changes and detours I probably won't understand this side of the grave.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stories are you looking for now?
Kathy Bailey
Kaybee, we must be twins. "..changed directions (or been forced to) countless times in my life, and...I can really look back and say it was All For The Best."
DeleteNot only for the best. But for the BETTER!!!
DeleteHi Kaybee, we're all always growing and changing....so it's silly to think our career isn't going to grow and change with us even if it's not the path we originally envisioned. That said, there are some detours that will always be elusive. Right now, I'm looking for genre romance and women's fiction!
DeleteLIZZIE!!!! I loved working with you on "Silent Night, Star-Lit Night" last year... What a fun project that was, and you were delightful as an editor. Authors will be totally blessed to work with you in the capacity of an agent, too. I'm so excited that you're doing this, and that you've moved back home.
ReplyDelete#mustlovenashville
#musiccityrocks
I love visiting Nashville... Great city, great people. But mostly I love how you presented all of this because of course a rat-infested park is the same as a grassy yard!
OH MYLANTA, so true! I walk early in NYC and have met many a furry friend on my way!
Welcome to Seekerville. Thank you for your help on my beautiful novella last year, and I'm wishing you the best of success in this new endeavor. Happy dancing for you!
Hello Miss Ruthy! Our novella together was one of my favorites in my career as an editor. Who doesn't love a Christmas story?!?
DeleteGood morning Lizzie and thank you for sharing with us here in Seekerville. What a wonderful list of practical advice to give to beginning authors. I like the part where you said if it isn't working to reassess. Sometimes we get so set on one path and don't explore the others.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes on your new venture as agent. I'm sure that after being an editor for a major publisher, you will be so helpful to your clients. Have a fun day today.
Welcome to Seekerville, Lizzie, and thank you for sharing the journey to your "sweet spot." Roads taken aren't always a direct route to where we need to be...but can be winding, uphill/downhill, rough at times, smooth in others, filled with stops and starts as we journey onward. Sometimes we wander in the wrong direction and God needs to get us back on a better path. Only in looking back can we sometimes see the pattern, see that we had to take a longer journey for a reason--experiences to be gained, skills to be honed, and lessons learned.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a writer but enjoyed your post. Please enter me in drawing.
ReplyDeleteLIZZIE, thank you for sharing your journey. I've learned to be flexible and recognize that a "delay" doesn't mean "denial". Timing is an issue.
ReplyDeletePlease enter me in the drawing. Blessings.
That's brilliant Caryl. It's all about the timing, right??
DeleteFor editor/agents there will always be projects where the timing just doesn't work. The one that got away. And there are always those authors who pitch us who just aren't quite ready with their writing. I think the hardest thing is brushing off denials and rejections and pivoting. But remember, this business is subjective and there's always another path you can take.
DeleteLizzie, One point I gleamed from your column is that without the emotional support of your love ones no matter how much success you achieved you you never felt whole and you carried blame for missing important family events. Thank goodness your path revolved in such a way to return you back to where you started. Thank you for all the good information about novel writing. Bless you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteFamily is everything, right Suzanne??
DeleteFamily played a huge role in my decission to make a change in my life. For so long, I felt it was a weakness to admit wanting to be close to my family - like it was something to be ashamed of, my emotional "dependence" on them, and it was having to reframe my "dependence" as "fulfillment" that was so hard. You'd be surprised how often I heard, "you can't let your family make the decission for you" about moving from colleagues and friends. As if my own desire to be closer was somehow not my desire.
DeleteHi, Lizzie! It's great to see you here in Seekerville. Welcome! It is wonderful when you can figure out where you're meant to be and what you're meant to do. What do you do when your plan fails? Reassess. God is not surprised when our plans fail. Nothing takes him by surprise. I thought I'd have my next story finished by now. I had it all planned out. But God knew what was coming up. And I've found in the past, when things block what I'm doing, when I get to the next point, it's right on time.
ReplyDeleteSally, our plan B gal. You are the gracious Plan B gal, too!!
DeleteExactly! That doesn't mean in the moment having your timeline fail you doesn't cause a bit of frustration, but it's so important to be able to step back and find the Plan B.
DeleteI love that you reassessed and moved in the direction that brought peace to your heart. Congratulations on your new journey!
ReplyDeleteI'm an author still seeking representation and nothing in my writing journey or life has gone the way I'd planned. I aimed for college with the idea of being a forensic criminal psychologist...ended up with a degree in Human Resources...go figure? And now I write. My daily surrender struggle gets better and then gets worse when I think I'm moving in the direction God has and WHAM I get redirected. Suffice it to say, life is never dull for me. But it has also come with some amazing blessings.
Sharee, I love the connection between your desire to be a criminal psychologist and the genre of your upcoming debut!
DeleteI didn't know that, Sharee. I've learned more about you and I love you for it.
DeleteSo many writers feel the same way! One of my authors came to be already with multiple bestsellers under her belt and no agent. Another came to me as a debut who ended up writing in a genre she never expected. There are so many ways to make your way in this industry!
DeleteLizzie, I smiled so many times reading your post, thinking about my plan targets. Some I hit, others were just detours around: Veterinarian, Bible College Student, wife, mother, librarian, business woman. The thread that wove around everything though, was the desire to write. I remember how, at first, I just didn't know how to even start. But little-by-little, I learned, read craft books, went to conferences, and most important, made friends with other writers.
ReplyDeleteIt seems we must constantly be reassessing our goals in life. It can get confusing. Keeps things interesting though!
I am totally a Plan B gal myself. And I've gone through the entire alphabet at times. God's Grace is helpful too. ha!
DeleteThanks Dana! And you go! Learning, reading, conferences, making friends....those are all so very important to the writing process. Even if they take time ;)
DeleteHi Lizzie and welcome to Seekerville. I have been looking forward to this day to finally "meet" you. I have nothing but respect for the Seymour Agency. Mary Sue Seymour was very good to me a few years back, encouraging me and inviting me to submit. I was wondering, is an agent more likely to offer representation to an author that already has a book being considered by a publisher, or would you prefer to start with new material and sell it according to where you think it fits best? Asking because I have had requests for fulls from both an agent and an editor and wondered which should come first. Or is this a chicken/egg thing? Thanks so much for being in Seekerville today!
ReplyDeleteGood questions, Cindy. Thanks for stopping by!
DeleteHi Cindy, so this metaphor is about to be all screwed up because the best scenarios are chicken and egg together ones. Send your full to both the editor and the agent and let them both know you have had request for fulls. That way they have all the information. I've been in this position both as an editor and an agent. My advice: make sure whoever you sign with is passionate about your career and has a strategy for your work.
DeleteLizzie, I love love love this story of your journey. I love that it begins with NYC and all that encompasses and ends in Nashville. But look at everything you got to experience in the "big time" and how that has shaped you and prepared you (not just professionally) for this stage of life. It takes so much maturity to step out of what many would perceive as "success" into the life that is right for you (which is the most important kind of "success"). I love when God surprises us with His amazing plan (which is always so much better than the plan I try to convince Him is "perfect")! My heart is happy for you because I know that feeling of pushing, pushing, pushing...and then the relief of finding where you truly are meant to be. Blessings!
ReplyDeleteIt takes courage and wisdom to walk away when something LOOKS wonderful but it is not for you.
DeleteThanks Karen! Trying to make something fit can definitely cause some stress - both professionally and emotionally - I remember feeling like everything was a struggle before I left New York - from grocery shopping to getting my edition done - and I think that was because I was fighting myself and my heart
DeleteWishing you all the best, Lizzie. Glad the change worked. Thanks for sharing your journey - and humor :-)
ReplyDeleteNancy C
Welcome, Lizzie, and thank you for this inspiring and timely post! I love this: "If something doesn't feel right, if you're frustrated, sit down and reassess." I've been reassessing various facets of my life over the last few months--family life, writing goals, outside activities, and other commitments. Change can be challenging, but if we are patient and let God show the way, we can count on making the best decisions.
ReplyDeleteHow true. Our plan might not be what God wants for us so we have to be willing to go another direction. Thanks for the giveaway.
ReplyDeleteGood morning, Lizzie.
ReplyDeleteYou're so wise for your age.
I love how you had everything figured it and then it kept changing. That's happened numerous times in my life as well.
You mentioned indie publishing. Typically, do you help authors w/that side of publishing? Hybrid, maybe?
Typically the indie path doesn't have much to do with agents (since we can't make money on indie ;) and still have to pay the bills). However, I do have authors who are hybrid. Which means as long as there's open communication, I handle certain books and proposals with the aim of traidition publishing them, while they are free to publish other works themselves. Again, you need to find an agent that you can work with so that your expectations and goals match with their expectations and goals.
DeleteI always tell my kids - go toward what you love, and gravity will take you where you need to be. Sometimes, though, we fight gravity! After 10 books, I was finally getting traction in the historical market. Then the market collapsed. I'm switching gears and loving the journey!
ReplyDeleteBE A PRETZEL. Can't go wrong if you can be flexible. RIGHT???
DeleteThat's the hardest change to accept: the one there success is right there in front of you. That said, keep being willing to switch gears and don't worry, if your heart is in historical, there are patha that will let you explore it.
DeleteHi Lizzie:
ReplyDeleteIt seems you've made a case for living a "Pantsered Life". How's that for a title? In a way, we do live one day at a time as in the sweet words of Cristy Lane's "One Day at a Time".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzU5jdbKOUk
As a marketing person, I have offered this advise to those writers who feel they just must pantser:
Create an initial situation with many target rich streams of conflict that in turn allow for a maximum selection of paths to an interesting and fulfilling HEA. This allows for the best tactics to be employed at every turn along the paths the writer has chosen.
If a story has only one successful ending, then the odds of successfully getting there are highly problematic. Only the most meticulous plotters, like some mystery writers, should attempt this path.
Just as there are many paths to heaven, so too there are many mansions in our Father's house. If at the start of our journey our strategy leaves us open to taking any number of different paths, then we are left with the widest range of situational tactics and we can indeed live one day at a time.
I've lived in Nashville for a time and I've often wondered why everyone didn't live there. :)
I think the big questions is: Have you any plans to write a romance?
Vince
What did you like about Nashville. Besides food and music lol.
DeleteHi Tina: Nashville is really a little city that lives like a big city.
DeleteNashville has a great history!
DeleteI love the people in Nashville! The friendly waves, the polite small talk, the sense of community even in a growing city. Plus, I really do love my support base there. After all, anyone who still thinks you're awesome after seeing you at your hormonal teenage worst is a keeper! That said, right now, I don't think I have plans to write....but as we know plans can change!
DeleteLizzie, thanks for this post. Changing directions can be challenging, but if we seek God's will and not our own, we will always succeed. He has taught me this lesson many times, and is not through with me yet!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway=more books!! Yay!
Blessings,
Marcia
I find it helpful to be direction challenged. That way I don't mind nearly so much when he nudges me to a new path. LOL.
DeleteHi Lizzie:
ReplyDeleteGiven that perhaps the most important years in an Amish person's life are during the "Rumspringa," wouldn't it make sense that the most pressing life issues could be showed played out in a YA Amish novel? These could be many issues that a non-Amish youth would not consider but which would be highly insightful for Englisher YA readers to face at the YA age.
Imagine if Englisher youth had to spent two years or more outside of their society and had to live in a very different culture trying to decide which they might want to spend the rest of their lives in.
It would seem that all the important life questions could be addressed in a dramatic story context. I feel Amish YA could be the makings of great literature. It would certainly offer a very target rich environment.
Vince
And yet, it's all about the market. If the market doesn't want it, then what's an author to do??
DeleteDo what all marketers do: create a demand. No one wanted Post-it® Notes until 3M created a demand. Advertising.
DeleteStart with a free novella prequel that's so good readers will want more.
You're brilliant, Vince. Brilliant!!
DeleteAmish YA. I like it, Vince, although my Amish heroes and heroines are a bit younger than their Englischer counterparts...but then my books are primarily for an adult audience. But historical Amish YA might resonate with younger readers!!!
DeleteGood idea, Vince!
And now the challenge is finding the right agent who knows the YA market and the right hook for the story. Would it be inspirational or mainstream? Do you have a hero or heroine? Is it third person or first person? Does he/she fall in love with someone on the Outside? Is there a love triangle with his/her Amish best friend? How would it end?
DeleteI am in the honing and developing of my craft. I don't feel it is ready for publication yet. Thanks for your insight as an editor and agent. I will keep working on the development and perhaps one day will be ready to submit it.
ReplyDeleteThanks for coming to Seekerville today.
Wilani, thanks for stopping by.
DeleteNever be afraid to admit to yourself that your book isn't ready or your craft needs work. Often we let pride stand in the way of admitting our "shortcoming" but working on craft is never a shortcoming! Once you've done some revising, I suggest finding a writer's group to beta read your work! You may never feel your craft work is completely perfect, so let other people read your work and help!
DeleteLizzy, I so enjoyed reading your journey to becoming an agent. I also appreciate the way you give us "permission" to switch things up. I've switched genres, and the story I'm working on right now has me really excited. Sometimes, it's when we make some adjustments to "the plan" that we find renewed enthusiasm for what we're doing. Thanks for this reminder today!
ReplyDeleteJeanne! YOU SWITCHED GENRES?????? More info please and thank you! How exciting.
DeleteIt's freeing to try something new, right?
DeleteLizzie, welcome to Seekerville! Your post resonated with me. Reassessing to see if our plans are working or need to be revised is smart. Life is more than our careers. Congratulations on finding a balance as a literary agent. Are there plans for successful SMP Swerve eBooks to get in print?
ReplyDeleteJanet
Hi Janet, thanks for the support! And work-life balance is a must!
DeleteWelcome, Lizzie! I live near Atlanta now, but I grew up in Bowling Green, KY, not far from Nashville. So we were practically neighbors. :)
ReplyDeleteThis is great advice! I love that you realized you weren't happy and reevaluated. I think we all need to do that from time to time.
Lizzie, thank you for sharing your experience of reevaluating your plan. Planning is good, but knowing when to adjust is important...then embracing the "here" can bring contentment.
ReplyDelete"We're right where God wants us to be" brings me peace during the journey.
So good to have you visiting Seekerville!
I agree, Sherida. So often we cannot see the big picture.
DeleteAnd on a side now, enjoying Arbuckle coffee today. SO YUMMY!
That coffee is particularly good for “thinking cowboy!” Keep writing those stories! :)
DeleteI drink a lot of Starbuck's espresso roast as it is very smooth. This is better. Thank you. Thank you!
DeleteTiming. It all comes down to timing sometime...
DeleteI guess I've never had any big plans that were so set in stone I felt like they couldn't change--no grand disappointments from suddenly needing to go in a different direction. However, I'm much more likely to get frustrated when my plans for the day go awry.
ReplyDeleteThanks for coming! I enjoyed getting an agent's perspective!
Thanks for stopping by Rachael. Well, yes to the day to day frustrations! LOL
DeleteDaily frustrations totally count! For example, I totally planned to chime in on the comments... and not FOUR DAYS LATE. That said, if you find yourself often frustrated with daily goals not working out, then maybe try to pinpoint what works and what doesn't? For example, I found I'm at my editing best when I change locations. And that I have a harder time reading revisions on the computer.
DeleteThank you Lizzie for sharing your perspective. It looks like you have found your fit where the road has led you. I have been a bit of a career gypsy, and for that matter a physical gypsy as well (having most recently left Arizona for Northern Michigan). The one thing that always tugged at my heart was writing. It is also the one thing that freaked me out most (that rejection worry).
ReplyDeleteThank you for your bold encouragement!
Kelly, sit on your fears and go for it! Why not? Seriously? What is the worst that can happen??
DeleteFear kept me in NYC for a year longer than I should have been there. Fear held me back from a career change that wasn't certain, where I'd have to find my footing. Fear sucks. So let me say the thing I needed to hear: it's not stupid to want something different for yourself. It's not silly to have a dream. It's not ridiculous to think that you can do it, you can write a book. Yes, you will be rejected at some point, but you are strong, you can do it. Otherwise, you'll always wonder "what if" and that's even worse.
DeleteHello Lizzie and thank you so much for sharing your story with us! We are all the sum of our experiences and bring so many things in to our writing and our work every day. Regarding changing directions and disappointments, I think it's important to recognize there's sadness and sometimes even grief involved in the loss of our idea of what our vision of success was at the time. We need to work that through in our minds in order to let it go and take what new offerings are given to us. So many people don't do the "work" in that and then miss out on the splendid new things in their lives. I've wanted to be a writer all my life but needed to be my own meal ticket and sole support over the years which didn't leave much time for writing. However, my life has changed and grown and *this* is my season for writing. I haven't figured out what my success metric is going to be but that's part of the adventure right now! Thanks for your encouraging words today.
ReplyDeleteExactly, Laurie, the journey is the best part.
DeleteThere's also that creeping, nagging, irritating feeling of failure when we "fail." No one like that. At all.
DeleteGreat post, Lizzie. It made me think of my son. He is almost 23 and graduated from college a year ago feeling uncertain about following the path he had set. He is still struggling. As his mom, it's hard for me to watch while he figures it out.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I grew up wanting to be a teacher and a writer and have done both. Right now I am struggling with the ending to my first novel. Then its on to the revising process.
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Sandy, those empty nest times are the best. You aren entered.
DeleteSandy, let me tell you: ending your first book is freaking hard. You are not alone and you will do it.
DeleteHi Lizzie,
ReplyDeleteWelcome to Seekerville. It's great to have you here. I enjoyed your story of working hard, being flexible, and following God's lead. Thanks for sharing!
I am a big planner, and of course my plans don't always work out or go the way I want them to. I have learned and am still learning that when my plans fail, it is most likely that God has other plans for me, so I just try to breathe and pray that God will guide me in his perfect will and help me to have faith and patience as I wait on him to guide me.
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway! Thanks for the opportunity to win!
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Tiffany, thanks for stopping by. You are entered.
DeleteThanks for sharing your journey on this post. It amazes me the diverse and interesting paths authors, editors, and agents have had to get to where they are today.
ReplyDeleteMindy, thanks for stopping by. We love our readers. You are entered.
DeleteLizzie, I loved your story. Mine is equally as "crooked," but I took a few more detours. At 30, I planned to be a bestselling NYT author. Didn't happen.
ReplyDeleteAfter lots of twists and turns and stumbling over tree roots, I'm finally where God wants me to be. On February 1, my contemporary romance novel Never Say Never to Love in Nashville will be released on Amazon.com by Forget Me Not Romances, and on April 1, Dreams of My Heart, a historical romance, will be published by Mountain Brook Ink. Who says you can't write in more than one genre? I'm taking a step of faith.
Now when God says turn right, I don't ask questions, but it's taken a lifetime to follow His lead. I'm a published author, freelance editor, speaker, and former acquisitions editor and agent. It's been an exciting ride, and God isn't through with me yet.
Amen, Barbara! I learned a long time ago in the hospital setting. Never say no!
DeleteWelcome Lizzie! (I love your name, by the way) :)
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for sharing with us today. I'll echo what others have said--I loved reading about your journey and how you followed God's lead. So often we think we know exactly what we want/need and then later realize that wasn't the right (or best!) choice for us. There's much to be said for flexibility. :)
Thank you again for posting today, and I hope you'll have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Blessings, Patti Jo
Patti Jo, thanks for stopping pie. I mean by. Wait maybe I do mean peach pie. Or pecan pie.
DeleteWelcome to Seekerville, Lizzie. You know, I think so many people fall into the trap of landing the "perfect" job, only to discover that it's time to shift gears, then shift again, and maybe even again. :)
ReplyDeleteAnd, for the record, I wanted to be an Air Comptroller or a Linguistics major in high school. My dad said he'd never fly on a plane if I was the comptroller, and my Spanish teacher felt I'd never master foreign languages because I'm from the South. Both my career goals shot down before they even got off the ground good. lol
I was told by a HS guidance counselor that I would never make it "in the North" and that I would transfer home to UT or Auburn after a year of college in Maine. Plans might not work, but that's for us to discover, not for other people to tell us.
DeleteLIZZIE, WELCOME TO SEEKERVILLE!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a fun post! It made me smile a number of times. :)
And I couldn't agree more with what you said here (and throughout the entire blog, really, but especially this): "For me, it meant hitting pause. I threw "the plan" out, stopped trying to live my life based on what I thought I needed to do to achieve my definition of success. I made some calls. I made some lists. I took what'd I'd learned and made some changes. What did I want?"
That's exactly what happened to me, too, but as an author. I had to hit pause (let me rephrase that: God made me hit pause), taking a sabbatical from my publisher and proposals for new books or series and just focusing on God, family, and writing for the sheer joy of writing. It took me five years to figure out I didn't like the treadmill I was on. I didn't lose weight on this treadmill, I lost precious time and focus on my family and on God and like you, I needed to reassess.
I'd like to underscore this sentence especially: "I stopped trying to live my life based on what I thought I needed to do to achieve my definition of success."
And I'd like to add something. I discovered that my definition of success wasn't God's definition, so I had to learn that true success is focusing more on Him and seeking His direction for my life rather than my own.
So I truly admire the decision you made to leave the Big Apple to follow God's plan for your life -- BRAVO!!
Hugs,
Julie
Hi Julie! I'm glad you found a pace that works for you. Publishing asks a lot of authors to be "successful". You need to publish two books a year, you need to have a series continuously going, you need a tight publication strategy and build momentum, but if that definition of success doesn't work for you...what then?
DeleteMy journey involves a kid who is in college and one who will follow after older kid graduates. My amazing better hopes I'm a great writer in my retirement but wants me to remain low key until bills are paid. That's one of the reasons I want an agent and a traditional publisher, as the indie route takes more self-promotion.
ReplyDeleteAnd, of course, on my first novel I ended up with a hybrid contract where I'm still heavily self-promoting. :-)
Oh those kids in college. And money. Another issue. And peanut butter and jelly too!
DeleteLizzie, welcome and thank you for sharing your journey with us! What do I do when my plan fails? Trust in my Lord! He is the only One who can direct me on the right path and provide support.
ReplyDeleteAmen, Natalya and you are in the drawing!
DeleteHello Lizzie. So much great advice here. I am a planner by nature, but I've learned that when I hold on too tightly to my plans, I can miss out on God's opportunities. I still plan, but I have also learned to balance it with being flexible and open to what God hasn't previously shared with me. :)
ReplyDeleteLoraine, great to see you and congratulations on being an ACFW First Impressions finalist! WOOT!!
DeleteOh thank you Tina. I'm really surprised and pleased about it. :)
DeleteLizzie, excellent post. I've changed directions more times in life and writing then i want to admit.
ReplyDeleteI'm free from the day job in nine months and I'm looking forward to having more energy and time to write. Meanwhile I'm plodding along. Focusing on revisions and the path that feels right for me.
I was away from my computer today and kept trying to post a comment by using my phone...it never worked! I tried and tried and tried!
ReplyDeleteSo thrilled that you could be with us today, Lizzie! I love Nashville. I'm glad God led you home! :)
Lizzie, you've offered some advice to authors but much of it applies to readers like me. Many of us have had plans but sometimes things didn't happen like we thought and we had to alter our paths or conpletely change course.
ReplyDeleteBlessings & Happy Thanksgiving!
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Wow, today has been crazy. I've been out grocery shopping, and shopping, and grocery shopping some more- all day with my mom. So I'm just popping on to say, "Hi, guys!"
ReplyDeleteNow, bye! ;)
Thank you Lizzie for your post. I appreciated your insight into making a life change. Although change isn’t easy, it is doable. Take care and God Bless.
ReplyDeleteThese were great words of wisdom. A willingness to go in a different direction can be hard for anyone. I love the balance reminder. Good writing craft skills trump enthusiastic pitches every time. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the article from Lizzie. Great words of wisdom. When things fail, sometimes it's hard to get motivated to move on to something new. But you just have to do it and with God's help we can. He has promised to make our paths straight when we trust in Him. Thx again.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting article. Thanks for realizing your dream!
ReplyDeleteWhat wonderful timing for your blog! And yes, if it's in line with God's timing, I hope to meet you at the Chicago North-RWA Spring Fling in April!
ReplyDeleteSorry I am late....busy w/stuff. Lizzie, I enjoyed reading about your journey...thanks for sharing. I am a reader and love everything about Seekerville...great guests. Please enter me for the Amazon card.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lizzie! Saving this for future reference.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless you and all of Seekerville!