Monday, December 12, 2011

Keeping Christ in Christmas


Have you noticed the month of December is zipping by? If you’re like me, you’d like to hit the pause button and give yourself time to catch up, not just with shopping, sending cards, decorating and baking, but to catch your breath. And take a moment to savor the meaning of this blessed season. Better yet, to take time to share Jesus with others, with our family. Sadly, we have no pause button, but we can plan our days to make sure Jesus isn’t lost in the celebration of His birth.

What can we do to keep Christ at the center of Christmas? I have a few suggestions, as do a few Seekers. I’m hoping you’ll have others to share.

Spend time with Him.

• In devotions and prayer:

I’ve learned the hard way not to skip my morning time with God, especially in the month of December when life is the most hectic. The only way I can get a quiet moment alone with Jesus is to put Him first.

• At church services:

Pam Hillman, Stealing Jake:

“One way we keep Christ in Christmas is that we attend church no matter what day of the week Christmas day falls on. Yes, we will attend church this year, twice on Sunday, and our normal Saturday night youth service will have an added dimension as a Christmas Eve service as well.”

• At Christmas programs and concerts that focus on His birth:

Missy Tippens, A House Full of Hope, Love Inspired, Feb. 2012:

“One way our family keeps Christ in Christmas is to attend a candlelight service on Christmas Eve. My family of origin did the same for years while I was a teenager. It's a beautiful reminder of the Nativity story. And, from my vantage point in the choir loft, I can see the faces of my church family shining with joy by candlelight as they celebrate. It's a sweet service, and I hope all of you can attend one!”

Mary Connealy, Out of Control, Ten Plagues, A Home For Christmas eBook anthology

“For years our Christmas centered around church when I was the director of our Sunday School Christmas Program. I struggled for a long time to find skits and plays and songs that worked with our small church. We needed a play that had longer parts for older kids, increasing smaller parts for little kids and standing-around-doing-nothing parts for 3 and 4 year olds. I had a terrible time finding just the right thing. So I started writing the plays. It was really interesting to try and find a new approach to the nativity story. I tried to keep it fresh. Once I wrote a chant with all the kids parading on and off stage. Once I wrote a modern re-telling of the nativity story called "If It Happened Today." Once I set a Christmas tree in front of the church and we talked about the unusual Christ-centered ornaments and what each meant as the children decorated the tree. Working on the 2nd chapter of Luke, the other gospels' references to Jesus birth, and Isaiah's prophecies of Jesus, all gave me a very intimate knowledge of the scriptures surrounding that blessed event. I still have a very special love for some unusual aspects of the Nativity. I ended up getting five of those plays published btw. They were my first income from published work.”

Share Him with others.

Invite neighbors and friends to church, to programs, to our home. Buy cards with the message of Christmas. Share a smile and patience with harried shoppers and clerks. Wish them Merry Christmas. Let our lights shine.

Invite Him into our homes.

• In our decorations:

Display and share with children the significance of Christmas symbols like angels, shepherds, manger, the star and the Magi.

Pam Hillman, Stealing Jake:

“At home, I enjoy my nativity scenes. I have four. There is something special about displaying the nativity. It gives me a joyous feeling that the other decorations cannot match.”

Attribute ornaments. Buy and put plain Christmas ball ornaments in a bowl. Each night write with a paint pen on a ball an attribute of Jesus like merciful or holy. Discuss the attribute and give a Bible verse to show that attribute in Jesus’ life.

• In our traditions:

Sing carols, read the story of Jesus' birth in the Bible, watch shows or movies centered on the Christmas story, encourage children to act out the story using simple costumes like towels. One year our grandchildren turned the tables on the adults and gave each of us a part in the drama. Turned out to be a lot of fun. Buy a crèche that is plastic and safe for children to handle. Let them use the figures to tell the story in their own words.

Make a paper advent chain. Each night add a family member or friend to the chain and pray for them.

Place an empty doll cradle or makeshift manger under the Christmas tree. Challenge the children to do a good deed or speak a kind word every day during December. As often as they do, they put a straw in the cradle. Hopefully by Christmas Eve they've made a soft bed for baby Jesus.

Ask the kids to help you make a birthday cake for Jesus. An angel food cake mix, canned frosting with lots of sprinkles and a pillar candle in the center is festive and simple. Sing happy birthday to Jesus.

What God Wants for Christmas is a book set with boxes to open. The last box holds a mirror.

Each evening select a Christmas card from the basket of cards you’ve received. Read the message. Explain who the card is from and then pray for the sender.

Julie Lessman, A Heart Revealed

"As one of thirteen kids, I’d wake up Christmas morning to a wall of presents halfway up our ceiling-height tree. I remember it being pure chaos with everyone opening gifts at the same time, paper flying and everything over within a few frantic minutes. As I got older, my childhood Christmases just seemed soooo self-focused and not at all demonstrative of the giving nature of
a God who gave His only Son to each of us.

It wasn’t until I married and we adapted my husband’s family tradition of sitting in a circle while each person took their turn opening one present at a time that I realized how magical and peaceful Christmas could be. Lots of ooohs and ahhhs laced with love and gratitude while we enjoyed the unwrapping of everyone's gifts as well as our own. Instead of a time of me-me taking, it became a time of focused giving -- of ourselves, our time, our patience and our enthusiasm on the loved one who was taking his or her turn. Wow, imagine that -- hours of joy instead of frenzied minutes!! Without question this is the greatest Christmas tradition of my life -- precious and holy time spent with family, embracing the true spirit of giving rather than receiving. Pure bliss!!"

Take the emphasis off getting by giving to those less fortunate.

We're generous, especially at Christmas. Look for ways to share with others. In mid-November participate in Operation Christmas Child by filling a shoebox. Donate Angel Tree gifts of clothing, donate to Toys for Tots. Donate to a charity in someone’s name. Get the children involved. The possibilities are endless.

Take the emphasis off getting by doing for others.
Wrap gifts, feed the homeless at area shelters or sing carols at a nursing home. “Adopt” an older neighbor and shovel her walk, make her cookies, invite her to a program. Offer to babysit so parents can go shopping. Children can "give" promises to do chores.

Take the emphasis off getting by sharing talents.

Give homemade gifts that cost little but are truly gifts of self. Use talents for baking, candy making, woodworking, and knitting to create gifts. I treasure my quilted tablecloth, tree skirt and homemade ornaments made by my mother and my father’s homemade Santas—keepsakes that remind me of them and their love.

In the same way, encourage children to make cards and gifts for others. I look at the pleated paper angel with a Styrofoam head with missing raisin eyes and the tuna can ornament with the tiny angel tucked inside and fight sentimental tears, longing for the little girls who made them, for one more moment to cuddle them on my lap. I know that’s foolish. I’m proud of the women they are.

Perhaps the most important thing to remember during the hustle and bustle is to relax. God is working on us and through us. Things have a way of working out.


Share a tradition, leave a comment for a chance to win a copy of my January 3, 2012 release, An Inconvenient Match.


THE BEST OF ENEMIES

His family destroyed hers. But Matthew Cummings’s job
offer—to care for his recuperating father—is impossible to decline.
Schoolteacher Abigail Wilson can swallow her pride for the sake of a summer
paycheck that will help her sister. And when Abigail’s employment ends, old
loyalties will separate the feuding families once more.

If there’s anyone in town stubborn enough to deal with
Matthew’s cantankerous father, it’s Abigail. It’s just a business
arrangement—and a temporary one, at that. Her good opinion shouldn’t matter a
lick to Matt. Yet their different backgrounds belie a surprising kinship.
Perhaps unexpected love will be their reward for the summer’s inconvenient
match.
I'm serving coffee, tea, tomato juice, ham egg bake and buttermilk coffeecake.
Merry Christmas!

Janet

120 comments :

  1. My two families don't "keep Christ in Christmas" in the planned festivities and I didn't want to compete with the fun of gift giving and have another celebration with more meaning back in our home state afterwards. And stuffing in a third Christmas after traveling for days so does not sound like fun.

    So, when I had my first kiddo, I decided we wouldn't do Christmas, we'd do Epiphany and I am making up traditions etc. as I go and am loving it. I get to focus on what we want to focus on, it extends the holidays and we're making special memories. I'll be blogging about it later on Andrea's blog sometime next month, I think. But Jesus bday cake, game nights with another family, making and hanging a star for the wise men who'll fill our shoes as they pass to see the Christ Child, three gifts a piece, Gold ($), wisdom (books) and then a fun gift--but the $ is then used to buy Jesus something (how do you get a gift for Jesus? (Mt 25), and bunches of other things I'm going to fiddle with until I decide I'm happy with the whole focus.

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  2. Loved this post. And Ruthy's Yuletide Hearts. I just finished it about ten minutes ago. It was awesome =)

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  3. For years the highlight of Christmas at church for me was directing the adult and children's Christmas cantatas. I no longer do that, but the Christmas music is still my biggest joy.

    We do the gift exchange much mlike Julie, taking turns and stretching it out by starting with our stocking stuffer gifts, small items that are often humorous, and ending with the serious ones.

    I'm especially looking forward to this year because, if nothing goes awry, all three kids are coming. (Youngest son has a crazy work schedule.) We haven't had all three in a service with their dad preaching in a looooong time.

    Okay, the coffee will be ready for consumption at 3 a.m.

    Helen

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  4. Melissa, when I lived in Europe, Epiphany was about the third biggest holiday, right after Christmas and Easter! Lots of cakes and fun traditions. I've kept a few of those: an Epiphany cake that holds special figurines that synblize gifts from God. You get the figurine and then pray fot he special grace, it's fun! Also, in Poland on Epiphany they made a special braided bread and at midnight they sing a song on the porch, and someone inside opens the door. You welcome in 'the wise men' who give the three-braided bread loaf to 'Jesus'. They also write the year and the initials of the three wise men on the door post each year.

    When I was little, there wasn't much Christ in Christmas, but I still have a very good memory of leaving cookies out for Santa, and finding a coconut! My dad always explained that Santa had to fly over Hawaii to get to our West coast home. :D

    Now, we keep an Advent wreath that we light every night when we pray. and midnight services are a big thing...

    We just celebrated St. Nicholas's feast day (the 6th) and my kids left out their shoes. They found golden coins (chocolate)!

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  5. Janet, this was such a great post, when I read it again, I thought of Mother Teresa's saying about prayer: "Pray an hour a day. But if it's a really BUSY day, you should pray for two." :D

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  6. When our children were home we made a birthday cake for Jesus, read the Christmas story, and set up our nativity ~*~ out of the way of the cats. (One year, one went inside the stable to slumber on the straw when we had it under the Christmas tree. Mary and Joseph were reclining, too.) Making cookies to take with a remembrance gift to our neighbor next door. (A candle with a note, "You light up our life. We are appreciative of you as our neighbor." She would rush out early to compete with our neighbor coming from the other direction, to see who could finish snow-blowing our sidewalk first. We lived on the corner.)
    We are going to one of our daughter's this Christmas. We will go to candlelight service and a Christmas Eve open house. We mail gifts to our family we won't be with. This is our second year of being retired. We moved to be in the middle of our children in a long day's drive. We give gifts to our neighbor's little children now as they come up to our hill with their parents to sing carols to us and bring us cookies. We are blessed.
    lanehillhouse[at]centurylink[dot]net

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  7. Merry CHRISTmas, loved your post today, I always pick out cards for the season that tell of Jesus birth and share with family and friends.
    Gee Julie did not know you had 13 in the family, ours had 9. I love a big family and the love that is shared by my siblings now that I am grown.
    The months and years pass too quickly.
    Paula O

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  8. Melissa, what a perfect idea! I'm so proud of you. It takes guts to play the middleman and stand your ground.

    Seriously. What a great idea. And The Feast of the Epiphany has always been big in the Catholic church, but people have gotten away from the 'twelve days' of Christmas because they start the party early. And then by Christmas, it's wearing.

    I love what you're doing. Thank you for sharing that, because it's a blessing for all who read it.

    NANCY!!! ;) Thank you so much for the shout out for Yuletide Hearts. Now I will smile all day. Really. Truly!

    Virginia, I just love Mother Theresa. :) Goodness personified.

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  9. Janet, this is a beautiful post. We try to employ the St. James' idea of showing love with acts. That suits my concrete mind.

    But the hymns, the singing, the warmth, the envisioning. Christ with us. Emmanuel.

    Just love it!

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  10. Oooooh Janet, I loved this post. I love, love, love Christmas and celebrating Christ.

    Thanks for all the lovely ideas. Our family does many of them and Julie, we open presents like you do with each taking a turn. We start with the oldest first so over the years that changes. smile

    I love Melissa's idea also. Because I don't want the decorations to go away, we celebrate the twelve days also. I don't take down the decorations until after Epiphany so we have the colorful lights and focus on Jesus all that much longer.

    Mary, I can so see you writing and leading all of those plays. What a blessing and now others are using them also. woo hooo

    Thanks Janet for the warm fuzzies today.

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  11. What a beautiful post. There is no greater joy than to find true spiritual joy in the midst of the chaos of December. To slow down and experience His presence is the best part of Christmas, I think. Of course, having my family all together under one roof is right up there on the list! ;)

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  12. Melissa, I'm impressed with your solution! Everything you're planning will be fun and honor Jesus. I'm always a little sad to see the decorations come down. I doubt my d/h will agree but keeping them up until after Ephiphany sounds good to me.

    Janet

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  13. Delighted you enjoyed the post, Nancy. I have Ruthy's Yuletide Hearts on my nightstand. Can't wait!

    Janet

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  14. Yay, Helen!! Good news that your entire family will be together this Christmas. What a joy that will be! We're blessed that our kids live close. We open gifts on Christmas Eve. The sons-in-law's families are together Christmas Day.

    Thanks for the coffee!

    Janet

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  15. Virginia, thanks for sharing all the interesting traditions you've experienced abroad and what you're doing with your family! The coconut Santa left for you makes me smile. I suspect your dad liked coconut. :-)

    Janet

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  16. I love Mother Teresa's wisdom regarding prayer. Thanks for sharing, Virginia!

    Janet

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  17. Hi, Janet,

    I absolutely love tomato juice. Thanks for bringing that this morning. It's kind of unusual.

    This is a good topic. Our main tradition, through thick and thin, has been to get together with extended family every Christmas Eve.

    One special aspect of that, when our family is hosting, is having the children create place cards for each family member. We have them use marker to write the person's name and then attach a holiday sticker. This reminds them of the blessing of each member of their family and it's fun.

    We also play Christmas music, from sacred to Rudolph, throughout the season.

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  18. Good morning, Lane! Thanks for sharing your traditions. Love that your kitty found a cozy place to doze. :-) You bless your neighbors. No wonder they race to clear your walk. Have a wonderful time at your daughter's!

    Janet

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  19. Thanks, Paula! Like Julie, we open our gifts one at a time. But the grandkids passing out the gifts don't allow us to be leisurely. LOL

    Janet

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  20. Good morning, Ruthy! Love how you summed up the wonder of Christmas.

    Janet

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  21. Hey, Sandra, it's nice to know you hate to see the decorations go. We have ours up for over a month, but I never tire of them. I'm going to suggest we wait to take them down until after Ephiphany. Pray for me. ;-)

    Janet

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  22. Hi Sherrinda! I agree about the importance of gathering our families together. I try to remember we worship Jesus all year long and not beat myself up if the one night our family is together isn't as focused on Him as I'd like.

    Janet

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  23. Hi Cathy! I love the idea of the kids making placecards for the meal. Keeps them busy while we're cooking. :-) Though most of the work is done ahead in our family since we have spaghetti on Christmas Eve, a tradition started by my working mother.

    Janet

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  24. Hi Janet,

    This is a much needed post as things always seem to crash into these few weeks before Christmas.

    I was blessed to be raised in a family where Christ has always been the center of Christmas. We spend time Christmas Eve singing carols and reading the Nativity story and discussing God's gift to us.

    --Kirsten

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  25. Janet, thanks so much for this timely reminder. No need to put me in the drawing. I ordered your book this weekend! Can't wait to read it.

    I have always collected nativities but my own nod to the season is my Chrismon tree. I had seen them in my churches over the years and decided to make one for our family.

    When we had less money, I cross-stitched Christian symbols signifying different parts of the prophecy and story of the birth of Jesus. Over the years I (and friends who knew I had this tree) added angels, Bible verse ornaments, etc. That little tree is always where I can see it, either in the kitchen or family room.

    I am fortunate to have a family that doesn't ask for much at Christmas. It has never been a feeding frenzy. All of us have realized there are things we need and things we want. Maybe because I kept expectations low. Okay, yes, I have had a few years of trying to battle for the most popular toy but those years taught me a big lesson. Nothing takes Christ out of Christmas like battling in Toys R Us for a Cabbage Patch doll or Transformer.

    So, this time of year I make sure to pair buying gifts with buying like items to contribute to local charities. When I bought my children and grandchild books, I also purchased the same for one of the programs in town. When I buy clothes, I buy for the Salvation
    Army families as well. I like the idea of being reminded there are other families with the same hopes and dreams, helping them have a merry Christmas.

    Peace and happy Advent Week of Joy! Julie

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  26. A new tradition for us this year is making a birthday cake for Jesus. I have two toddlers at home so I think they'll love this new aspect to our Christmas celebration.

    Thank you so much for sharing all of the Christmas traditions and ways to keep Christ in Christmas.

    I'd love to be entered to win your book!

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  27. we make baked goodies and then make up gift baskets and share with others neighbors and friends.

    ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

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  28. BEAUTIFUL blog today, Janet, and SO helpful (and needed!) during this hectic season!!

    You said: "Like Julie, we open our gifts one at a time. But the grandkids passing out the gifts don't allow us to be leisurely. LOL"

    SOLUTION!!! We watch the little ones open their gifts first, thoroughly enjoying the shrieks of excitement and the glow in their eyes. When they are all done and busy playing on the floor in the middle of the big circle of sofas and chairs -- then it's our turn!! :)

    Hugs,
    Julie

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  29. Great post Janet! December is racing by so fast. Time to slow down and remember the reason for the season.

    When I was little we opened our presents on Christmas eve but now that I'm married with kids we wait till Christmas morning. It's a very special way to start the day: reading from the Bible and sharing our blessings before giving gifts.

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  30. MELISSA ... LOVE the idea of a birthday party for Jesus with another family!!

    VIRGINIA ... WOW, I didn't think anybody ovserved "St. Nick's Day" anymore!! We actually did celebrate it growing up, hanging our stockings on the mantle (the actual stockings we wore, only clean!) filled with candy, of course (I always tried to use an older sister's knee sock rather than my own short, stubby anklet!!)

    PAULA O ... WOW, nine is pretty good-size family today, and you know, I kind of miss the days of big families. It was like a city unto itself, a large family, and there was ALWAYS something going on, wasn't there??? And we had ELEVEN females living in our house!!! If that doesn't give you cold PMS chills, I don't know what will!! :)

    Hugs,
    Julie

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  31. What wonderful ideas to help us keep Christ in Christmas. I've never thought of putting my Christmas cards in a basket. Thumbs up! I love that idea...since they're generally hard to display in a pleasing manner.

    Mary, we've had Christmas plays for a gazillion years, many written or re-written by my husband's 93 yo grandmother to fit the number and ages of the children available.

    But this year, over half of our "kids" are away at college, and it was impossible to find time to practice for a play. So, I'm not sure what my sis-in-law finally decided to do. They did give out Christmas boxes to the shut-ins yesterday and sang some carols for them.

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  32. This really was a beautiful post, Janet. I loved all the ideas you shared, as well as hearing how other Seekers have kept Christmas in the past.

    Now that we live near my side of the family, we celebrate Christmas with our children on Christmas Eve. We take them to their favorite restaurant for lunch, we read the Christmas story and open presents from my DH's side of the family and our gifts one at a time, and just enjoy being together. We go to Christmas Eve service at our church.

    On Christmas morning, we drive the hour to my family's home and celebrate with our extended family. As our children grow older, we're trying to teach them about giving, not just receiving. We also try to keep Jesus in our Christmas season by talking about WHY He was born as a baby. We enjoy filling shoe boxes for Operation Christmas Child. I am so thankful for all the resources available to help us keep Jesus at the center of Christmas.

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  33. No problem, Ruthy. Now I have to read ANOTHER Christmas book to find out if indeed I really like them or it was just because I love your writing that made me love this one. :-p
    It did put me in the Christmas spirit. And make me want to roof a house. I worked on a Habitat for Humanity house this past weekend but we were putting up siding. That was fun too. Nail guns are pretty awesome.

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  34. Hey, sweet Janet!!! Thanks for the wonderful reminders. I love this post.

    We finally decorated our Christmas tree yesterday! I need to pull out the Christmas carols so we can sing a few every day. I love the old ones, like O Come, O Come Emmanuel and What Child is This.

    Like Julie (imagine that!) not all of my memories of Christmas are good, which makes it that much sweeter to make happy memories with my husband and girls. Christmas just makes it hit home how much I love them!!! And how much I love Jesus. Merry Christmas, Janet and all Seekers and Seeker friends!!!

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  35. Hi Kirsten! Your Christmas Eve celebrations sound wonderful. I'm meeting resistance with singing carols. :-(

    Janet

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  36. Julie, your tree sounds fabulous! What a lovely reminder of the reason for the season. Lots and lots of great ideas and wisdom in your comment. Thanks for sharing!

    And for ordering An Inconvenient Match. :-) Appreciate it.

    Janet

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  37. Hi Annie! I miss toddlers! The little ones are so precious with their shining eyes and simple faith. They'll love the birthday cake for Jesus and singing to Him.

    Merry Christmas!

    Janet

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  38. Lovely, Janet (and contributors)!
    Thank you so much.

    DH and I were just reviewing the next 2 weeks and what we must accomplish, should/could accomplish... And part of that is getting quiet time alone with the Lord.

    Super ideas here!

    Our beverage & food traditions include wassail and rice dressing! It's hardly Christmas without those two at a meal!

    Merrrry Christmas all!

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  39. I'm impressed, Apple Blossom! In recent years I've left the baking to our girls or bought cutout cookies from a church cookie walk. Your neighbors and friends are blessed to have you in their lives.

    Janet

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  40. Mannheim Steamroller Fresh Aire Christmas music. That is soooo Christmas to me and my girls. Deck the Halls, those first notes, just lift my spirits. And who would think that Good King Wensesclaus of all obscure hymns would sound so good.
    However I am tired of having to buy the album in new formats. I don't think I ever had a vinyl record, but I might've had the 8 track, then the cassette, now the CD and I should get it on iTunes, now.
    And it NEVER goes on sale. The oldest album is like TWENTY YEARS OLD, c'mon

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  41. Morning all!

    I've got a sick 'un home with me today :(. 10yo's eczema is in the beginning stages of a flare up [again? still?] but she's also got a very upset tummy :(. Waiting to hear back from the doc's office.

    HOPING to get the Christmas stuff out this afternoon but still not sure where we're going to put it. The kids are trying soooooo hard to come up with a good solution to put the big tree up. I REALLY don't want to take the love seat downstairs [as then we won't have enough seating] but I may not have a choice.

    We started making a birthday cake for Christmas a few years ago. The kids love that. The night before Christmas we read three books:

    *The Tale of the Three Trees
    *A Marine's Night Before Christmas [The verse and the story behind it with alternate soldier/sailor versions
    *Twas the Night Before Christmas

    A few years ago, I took the words to the Marine one, paired it with pictures of servicemen and my sister [who worked for a print shop at the time] made it into booklets for me.

    Christmas morning we read the Christmas story, of course. We also make cookies for just about everyone we know and deliver them [if we have a doc appt this afternoon, we'll make some to take a bit early to the docs' offices in that building; otherwise we'll take them the week of].

    We do the youngest opens a present first, then next and so on. Means my kids go first, then BIL's kids then grownups. The last couple years, though, the nieces and nephews have stopped taking turns and just opening whenever and that irritates me to no end ;). Ah well.

    We don't usually go to services [which makes me a bit sad] because we usually have something going on with family during them [as in we're at BIL's house 45 miles away] but not this year so I'm not sure if we'll go or not.

    The tradition of my family of origin handing out guilt trips like they're candy canes has already begun though...

    /sigh/

    There was a point in there somewhere.

    If you can find it, you get an extra candy cane this year ;).

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  42. Julie, that's a brillant idea, especially when the children are little. Ours are getting big enough to want to see the adults' gifts but not old enough to let us take out time.

    Does anyone still try to save the paper?

    Janet

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  43. Janet - we don't save paper but I try valiantly to save bags and tissue paper ;).

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  44. Jamie, Thanks for sharing the peace of your Christmas mornings.

    It struck me that traditions change as our lives change. Our kids grow up and marry. They must mingle traditions from their two families and find their own. As their parents, we now share them with inlaws.

    Janet

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  45. We get the tree up and wrapped presents under it the weekend after Thanksgiving, so the month of December isn't filled with shopping, stress, and a focus on stuff. During December we attend parties with friends, buy gifts for a less fortunate child from the school next door to our church that we outreach to, enjoy the Christmas play put on by the children in our congregation, and attend our Christmas Eve candlelight service.

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  46. Julie, I can't even imagine such a large family! I have two brothers. My d/h is an only child. We rarely see my siblings at Christmas now that our parents are gone. Still, when we get our kids and grandkids together, the ten of us seem to fill the place. :-)

    Janet

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  47. Pam, your 93-year-old grandmother inspires me and makes me feel young. LOL

    Janet

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  48. Thanks, Jeanne T, for the reminder to share WHY Jesus was born, the tie of Christmas and Easter.

    Janet

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  49. Nancy, I've never helped build a house for Habitat. What a sense of accomplishment you must feel. Bless you!

    Janet

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  50. Lovely, lovely post, Janet, and truly inspiring!

    We're looking forward to having ALL our kids and grandkids with us this Christmas. It'll be a houseful, that's for sure! We've always done the "sit in a circle, one gift unwrapped at a time" thing. It extends the excitement and gives everyone a chance to ooh and aah.

    Christmas Eve candlelight services are another family tradition. Hubby and I are usually singing in the choir, and this year we'll also be ringing handbells.

    Oh, and here's a bit of Christmas trivia for you:

    The REAL St. Nicholas was the Bishop of MYRA!

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  51. Melanie, you make an important point. Not every need is material. For some, Christmas brings back painful memories. Others are lonely and isolated. We need to be alert to see the hurting and reach out to them. To show them the love of Jesus.

    Merry Christmas to you! To all the Seekerville family!

    Janet

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  52. K.C., I've never heard of rice dressing. Is this a southern tradition? Tell me more.

    Janet

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  53. Mary, Mannheim Steamroller's music has survived the test of time. Fun to walk down memory lane strewn with old formats. LOL

    Janet

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  54. Carol, sorry to hear your daughter is sick. Prayers that she's on the mend soon.

    You are the queen of cookie baking! I have a friend like that. She bakes cookies for every occasion and has enough cookie cutters to decorate a large tree.

    I'm sorry about those guilt trips. Praying you can take a detour. Refuse to go.

    Hugs, Janet

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  55. Thank you, Janet, for this beautiful post. This year, for the first time in a long time, I'm enjoying the season more.

    I'm trying to put focus on giving to charities and to less fortunate kids, rather than on the "have to's". Trying to simplify the shopping and cooking, so not to stress myself out and become very grumpy.

    We also attend a Christmas Eve service and then have a bacon and egg breakfast on Christmas morning before opening gifts.

    Then on Boxing Day we get together with my brother and his family, which is very nice. Especially when it's at his house! And this year it is!

    Wishing everyone out in Seekerville a very Merry and Holy Christmas!

    Cheers,
    Sue
    sbmason at sympatico dot ca

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  56. Carol, I save large bows and gift bags. I have to be alert to grab the bows before my kids toss them.

    Janet

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  57. Keli, how do you manage to get it all done ahead? We don't get geared up until Black Friday. Still our daughters are very helpful with buying for their families so not much stress there.

    I still have cards to address, gifts to wrap.

    Janet

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  58. Thanks Cheryl! Any traditions to share?

    Janet

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  59. Myra, I'm smiling that St. Nicholas was the Bishop of Myra! You're famous. :-) So tell us about him.

    All of you who sing in choirs are generous with your time and bless the rest of us. Thank you!

    Janet

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  60. Sue, You sound so relaxed. Not fair. :-)

    I've heard of Boxing Day. Can you give some details?

    Janet

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  61. Oh, how I love Christmas! Janet, your post and all the comments have been great to read this morning...

    Julie's memories of Christmas with 13 children takes me back to my first Christmas at my new in-law's home (29 years ago? It can't be that long!). I grew up in the "one gift at a time" tradition, so when everyone lit into their presents, I just sat there, shocked. I was better prepared the next year, but no happier. Needless to say, that was one tradition that we haven't continued, even though my dear husband hated my family's tradition of opening gifts one at a time...he's come around.

    Our family is much less chaotic, but the traditions change. This year our two oldest children won't be able to make it home, so we're opening presents and Skypeing at the same time. My oldest son is adamant that we take turns opening the presents and let everyone watch. I think it will take all afternoon...I hope it will take all afternoon...

    :)

    At our house, music plays all the time, the nativities are up, lights are on all the time (who cares about the electric bill when you have Christ's light to share with the world?), and I stretch the Christmas baking out so that we always have something new...

    And I love it when Christmas is on Sunday!

    Except for one year - we were brand new in town and hadn't found a church yet, so we looked for one to visit on Christmas morning. None of the churches we would normally visit were having services that Sunday morning. We couldn't believe it. (And we never did find a church in that city...)

    I've got to get back to work, but thanks for the great Christmas memories!

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  62. Janet, thank you for this moment of calm in the midst of all my holiday panic. I'm so behind this year. I need to calm down and remember the Reason for the season!

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  63. Thank you, Janet, for this inspiring post. Our organist and choir director leads us in all those well loved older pieces of sacred music and some more contemporary ones. Music fastens my thoughts more on the true meaning of the season. With our celebration,friends and family seem to enjoy the British custom of pulling Christmas crackers and having Christmas pudding with hard sauce. There are a few other traditions that we incorporate into our festivities that aren't American. But it's the music that I love the most.
    Love to win a copy of Janet's book.

    patjeannedavis[at]verizon[dot]net

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  64. Thank you, Janet, for this inspiring post. Our organist and choir director leads us in all those well loved older pieces of sacred music and some more contemporary ones. Music fastens my thoughts more on the true meaning of the season. With our celebration,friends and family seem to enjoy the British custom of pulling Christmas crackers and having Christmas pudding with hard sauce. There are a few other traditions that we incorporate into our festivities that aren't American. But it's the music that I love the most.
    Love to win a copy of Janet's book.

    patjeannedavis[at]verizon[dot]net

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  65. Such lovely traditions from everyone. Thanks, Janet, for a great blog topic.

    Like Virginia, we focus on Advent and that anticipation of Christmas. The tree goes up about two weeks prior and always remains until the Epiphany. (Trivia: my son was born on Christmas and baptised on the Feast of the Epiphany. I felt we were living the Christmas story that year.)

    Our celebration starts at Church on Christmas Eve. Later that night, hubby reads from Luke, and we process around the house, singing Silent Night. The youngest carries the baby Jesus. We knock on our closed bedroom doors, symbolizing the doors closed to the Christ Child so long ago. Our journey ends at the crèche where we place the infant child in the manger and then kneel in prayer, thanking God for His abundant blessings and asking Him to be with us in the New Year.

    We open gifts in the morning, taking turns, as Julie mentioned.

    Over the years, we've done various project for those without families, especially the military, and also for the homeless and hungry and those in nursing homes. Our outreach to prisoners turned into a story published in Chicken Soup and remains one of my favorite memories of Christmas.

    I love that every heart seems a bit bigger at Christmas. Some may not realize why they respond to those in need over the holidays, but believers know Christ is always the reason for the season.

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  66. Carol! Guilt trips like candy canes. You crack me up =)

    Janet, it does feel pretty good, except for this time I got injured. Tripped over the air hose of a nail gun and twisted my foot, and then a metal tape measure retracted unexpectedly and sliced my finger open, LOL. I've worked on a few habitat houses, the most memorable by far was the first where the future homeowner turned out to be an old high school friend and had anyone working on the house write their favorite scripture on the concrete floor in permanent marker before the carpet went down. It was very touching.

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  67. Wow, I love these posts!

    LOL, Julie! Eleven girls? I have two (11 and 10) and the hormones make the other five males want to run for the hills.

    Nancy, if I ever got my husband a nail gun, he would cry for joy. I hear about those things on a regular basis.

    Debby, I LOVE your tradition of processing around and knocking on the doors!! Makes me think of the Posada that our family participates in (my husband is from Mexico and we can't miss the Posada!!). The kids dress up like Mary and Joseph and go from door to door, singing a traditional song about needing a palce to stay. Then finally, the 'inn' opens its doors and everyone comes in for the last verse and some hot chocolate. We've always used the church hall, because nobody's hosue is big enough to take the whole crowd. :)

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  68. This is such a great post with many awesome reminders!

    Thanks for sharing.

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  69. Thanks for sharing your traditions, Jan! I'd like to move in. What's one more? :-)

    I was surprised to learn that a church we attend in Florida is not having services Christmas morning. Though they are having several on Christmas Eve.

    I'm guessing Skype is bringing lots of families together this Christmas. Techology is a blessing.

    Janet

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  70. Christmas can be such a self centered holiday, isn't it? It's hard to see people spending so much time and money on things they don't need just because we have been told "everyone must have a gift."

    Sigh. More than anything I want to Christ in my everyday life. Not just one day or one holiday out of the year, but every day.

    And there are so many ideas in this post. :)

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  71. Thanks for the post, Janet. As our family awaits the birth of a grandson (due around Christmas day), I can't help but feel akin with the story of Christ's birth and imagine the little family as they sheltered their precious baby in the confines of a stall, lying him in a manger. (We have the Pack and Play ready, lol). This year I feel the human side of Christ, born of humble roots, and it's a unique blessing along my path of faith to so intensely feel that aspect of Him.

    LyndeeH

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  72. Missy, I don't know how you do it all! You have kids at home, choir and church responsibilities, your writing. Take some of the pressure off if you can. Delegate. :-)

    Janet

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  73. Pat Jeanne, what is in the Christmas crackers? Candy? Small toys? I've seen them for sale. Maybe I should buy one just to see.

    Thanks for your interest in my book!

    Janet

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  74. Debby, your parade with baby Jesus while knocking on closed doors and singing Silent Night is a lovely tradition!

    How do you celebrate your son's Christmas birthday?

    Janet

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  75. Goodness, Nancy, you've paid a price for your volunteering. Ouch!

    I love the idea of writing Scripture on the concrete beneath the carpet! A lovely way to symbolize Scripture will undergird our steps.

    Janet

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  76. Virginia, my parents had an old video of Perry Como's Christmas shows around the world. Anyone old enough to remember Perry? One of the stops was Mexico and the Posada. Do you break a Piñata?

    Janet

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  77. Hi Loree! Thanks for taking the time to stop by.

    Janet

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  78. This post is full of such great ideas!

    My family has always done the "one gift at a time," which I love (it also helps that I come from a family of 4!). My family has also been big on stories. Every Christmas Eve when I was a kid, we'd read the Christmas story, then listen to a recording by Dr. James Dobson, a story called "Helen's Buggy." It was a story about a wheelchair-bound, 12-year-old girl who goes to a department store with her 8-year-old brother to get a Christmas gift for their mother, even though they have very little money. It's beautiful.

    I don't have kids yet, but I'm looking forward to making Christmas special for them someday. And making sure they know that Christ is what the holiday is all about.

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  79. Casey, you're right. We want to make Jesus the center of our lives every day. We have 365 chances to do better. Love that!

    Janet

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  80. Hi Lyndee, what fun to welcome a grandbaby at Christmas! A gift that will bless your family for generations.

    Have you read Two from Galilee? Marjorie Holmes' fictional account of what Joseph and Mary might have gone through.

    Janet

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  81. Hi Stephanie! I haven't heard of Helen's Buggy. Will look it up.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Janet

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  82. I love the ideas you've given for keeping the focus of Christmas right.
    I have to agree with JULIE L. I grew up with tons of gifts and the focus was on attacking the pile the fastest. When I married, just like Julie, I found a new meaning to gift giving. We do it one at a time every year. My kids know what to expect at our home and at their grandparents on Dad's side.
    It isn't about the gift. It is about the giving.

    Thanks for the reminders.

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  83. Something someone in here posted reminded me of a story my... cousin-in-law* posted. I copied it and posted it on my blog [hey - her Facebook said to feel free to share ;)].

    They run a ministry that, among other things, takes toys to kids in Mexico for Christmas. This is the story they had one year - though I'm not sure which year.

    Toy Story, Spirit and Truth Ministries, Randy and Donna Denton

    Take a Kleenex with you as you read.

    *Donna is a descendant of my great-grandparents and she's not my first cousin. That's as close as I can get to telling you which number cousins we are ;).

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  84. Great post, I will keep this information. You shared some awesome ideas thank you.
    Glenda Parker
    http:glendaparkerfictionwriter.blogspot.com

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  85. Great reminders, Janet (and Seekers)
    I absolutely LOVE helping lead in worship- especially during this time of year. Through choir Christmas cantatas and the Christmas Eve candlelight communion services, it's all a beautiful reminder of the 'heart' of Christmas.

    Melissa's ideas were pretty cool!
    OUr kids get 3 gifts each, but I've not been as specific.

    Each year, the week before Christmas, we go through our little nativity set (which has Bible verses printed on it) and talk one character of the nativity each night leading up to Christmas.
    The kids and I will have a Christchild scavenger hunt (specific ornaments with meaning related to the Christmas story are hidden throughout the house and we have to find them, bring them back to the living room, and piece them together for the story) - hey, it's a great way to pass the time while everyone is anticipating Christmas day :-)

    And then - on Christmas Eve - we read Luke's account of the story and then a fun "Twas the Night Jesus Came" children's rendition.

    Okay...back to my mounds of paperwork to grade. This was a nice break though :-) Thanks, Janet

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  86. These are fabulous ideas! I love the attribute one and since our tree isn't up yet I think we may incorporate it this year.

    Thank you for sharing, Seekerville!

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  87. Hi Jodi! The nice thing about having our own homes is we get to decide how the gifts are opened.
    :-)

    Janet

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  88. Carol, thanks for sharing that precious story and your cousin's ministry. That little boy's selfless generosity shows the meaning of love.

    Janet

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  89. Thanks Glenda! Merry Christmas!

    Janet

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  90. Hi Pepper! I loved the scavenger hunt idea! A great way to keep the kiddies occupied and moving.

    Hope you finish grading those papers in no time!

    Janet

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  91. Thanks Eva! I've gotten a lot of great ideas from the comments.

    Merry Christmas!

    Janet

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  92. Hi Christina! I like the attribute ornaments too. My daughter told me about that one. I'm hoping she's adding them to her tree.

    Janet

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  93. Here I always go to church on Christmas day. (In australia more people go to church Christmas day and Good Friday than any other time).
    Even when our own church hasn't had a service (like on a Monday) I have gone to one of the other church services in the town. It just doesn't seem right not to go on Christmas day. This year I will go in Melbourne. The town also has carols in the park in candle light which is always nice also.

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  94. Hi Jenny, I suspect things are much the same in America. Carols by candle light sounds awesome! Hope you have a lovely Christmas in Melbourne.

    Janet

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  95. Janet, you ask what's in those Christmas crackers. Well, it depends on how much you pay for them. Always a novelty of some sort and that could include in the less expensive ones, a very small item or trinket for the kiddos. The more expensive crackers can include some small useful item for adults, too. I've never had one with candy, but maybe Susan in CA would say more on the ones she gets. Always a printed joke or riddle and a paper crown will be inside one. AUSJenny may have other things where she lives.Someone mentioned Skype. We'll be using Skype to connect with the other half of our family living in the U.K. this Christmas. Love Skype.
    Pat in Philly

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  96. Lovely post, I enjpyed hearing what other do at Christmas. For our family we like to cook, and eat like crazy after we get home from the Christmas Eve service so that everything will be fresh. Plus if we start earlier we end up way too much, so we do it last minute. I'd love to read our book.
    crazi.swans at gmail dot com

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  97. Pat, a paper crown would be fun. Queen of my sphere. No need to say my kingdom is the size of my computer chair. :-)

    Glad you have Skype to see your U.K. family!

    Janet

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  98. Hi Faye, Sounds like you get the entire family involved with cooking...or at least the eating!

    Thanks for your interest in An Inconvenient Match!

    Janet

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  99. What great suggestions, thanks Janet. And somehow, Mary writing Christmas plays for her small church just doesn't surprise me. I bet she had the entire audience laughing. :)

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  100. We've cut down a lot on our family gift gifting because we all buy what we need--and want--during the year. Damian, my adorable 5 year old grandson, is getting one big present and a few little things. We don't make a big deal out of presents.

    Every time I go by the Salvation Army bellringer I give something. You can't just give gifts to the people you love when they don't need them and ignore the needs of those who do need some help.

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  101. Every year at my parents house since the coming of their grandchildren, we all sit in the living room with the kids in a circle on the floor where we can all see them open their presents. Sometimes they'll take turns opening and sometimes they open them at the same time. And sometimes we play games with the gifts. It's great fun!

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  102. Keeping Christ in Christmas can be difficult these days, but I won't budge. No "Happy Holidays" for me. When I hear it I respond with "Have a very Merry Christmas!". I love smiling at people and gaining a smile back from them. I do that all year long with the hopes that the person receiving my smile can see a little bit of Jesus in me. Have you ever tried smiling at someone just to smile? I love to bring smiles to people's faces, especially to the elderly. When they smile back they give me a precious gift.

    A few years ago, a co-worker gave me a clarinet stating that she wanted me to give it to someone at our church that could use it. That was about eight years ago. This Christmas I'm finally able to give it away. We had a young mother come into our church a couple of months ago and when I found out she played clarinet but couldn't afford one I SMILED from ear to ear. My husband & I took it into a music store to have the pads replaced and we'll get it back this week. I think I'm more excited then this young mother. I love to give and I love to smile. I think that's why God gave me dimples! :)

    Smiles & Blessings,
    Cindy W.

    countrybear52[at]yahoo[dot]com

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  103. Hi Janet,
    Great post. I love hearing about all of the different traditions. My favorite tradition is the reading of the Christmas Story. The birth of my Savior is the most wonderful story of all.
    One of my favorite memories is going shopping with my family. It's so much fun being together in the same store and trying to dodge each other so that you don't see the gifts that you've gotten for each other. It almost becomes a game of tag.
    And like Julie, my family has one person at a time open their gifts to make it last longer.

    Merry Christmas All!!!
    Angi

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  104. Ooops...forgot my email addy. :)

    Angi
    diamondsixgunsofangioakley(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  105. Hi Naomi! I'm guessing you're right. So fess up, Mary.

    Janet

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  106. Cara, I like to give to the Salvation Army bell ringers too. Especially those outside in the cold.

    Janet

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  107. Janet,

    You guys don't have Boxing Day???

    That's the day all the after Christmas sales start and believe it or not people flock to the stores like your Black Friday (well they don't line up all night or anything!)

    I avoid stores that day like the plague. But it is an actual Stat holiday so hubby gets it off work. Only the poor people who work in the stores have to go in. So since all the family can't get together on Christmas (my sister in law has her family that day), we get together on Boxing Day.

    Fun!

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  108. Hi Linnette! To watching little ones open gifts is a delight, especially when they play with the boxes and paper more than their gifts. :-)

    Merry Christmas!

    Janet

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  109. Hi Cindy W! What a precious spirit you have. I'm sure you've brought a lot of joy to others with those dimples of yours. I've found that if I look into people's eyes and smile, they will. Eye contact. Smile. Works every time. :-)

    Musical instruments are expensive. I wonder how many are gathering dust that could be put to good use. Delighted the clarinet found a home.

    We attended our grandson's band concert tonight. He's a percussionist and did a beautiful job playing the conga drum.

    Merry Christmas!

    Janet

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  110. Hi Angi, I can imagine all of you scurrying down the aisles trying to hide your purchases.

    The story of Jesus' birth covers the gamut from the lowliest to the most high. Humble stable, manger, animals and shepherds surrounding the baby, the King of Kings. Angels told of Him, a star guides Magi to Him. They bring costly gifts. Amazing.

    Janet

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  111. Sue, a holiday to shop sales is a topnotch idea. Stores in the US have sales every week now. Or so it seems. Are all your sales after Christmas?

    Janet

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  112. Wonderful post!

    My Christmas traditions are a little off the wall.

    1) Helping with the parking at my church on Christmas Eve. (A tradition I keep as I working the parking lot when Sandra called me to let me know of my first ever contest finale)

    2) Cooking a ham overnight for the family Christmas day get-together.

    3) Eating Chinese on Christmas Eve (nothing to do with "A Christmas Story).

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  113. As a military family, we were unable to travel home due to lack of money and harsh winter weather. So we built our own family traditions using some from each of our favorite traditions.

    I love to cook so many of those customs centered around food. I made fudge, divinity, and a variety of cookies. Cooking was and still is a family project. The results were packaged up and mailed to our families so we would be present at the family celebrations back home.

    Today as a grandmother, the cooking tradition remains. We still celebrate with treasured recipes from my grandmother, my aunt, and both of our mothers. Over the years, I've added a few of my own.

    Looking back, I can see my grandmother's love of sharing food together around the table has passed down to my mother, then me, to my daughter, and now grand daughters. Special recipes for the holidays have always been my family's way of maintaining Christmas through the years.

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  114. Oh my, Janet! What wonderful reminders of what Christmas is truly all about.

    We get so wrapped up in the craziness that has become the Christmas season (starting post Halloween!!) that it's easy to forget the simple, holy origins of the celebration.

    Thanks for the reality check : )

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  115. Hi Walt, a man who braves the cold to help others has the true spirit of Christmas. Sounds like you know your way around the kitchen too. A helpful husband is a wife's hero.

    Merry Christmas!
    Janet

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  116. Hi Moonine! I have an aunt like you who made and sent a huge box of her homemade candy. What a fabulous treat! I tried divinty a couple of times with too much humidity in the house. The result--pancake divinity. LOL

    Janet

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  117. Audra, it's not easy to fight the commercialism, is it? I love gift giving and decorating, the parties, yet all that can crowd out the birth.

    Janet

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  118. we make goodie baskets for others, neighbors, people in church etc.

    ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

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